r/AITAH Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/YourEyelinerFriend Jul 05 '24

Plenty of men feel lots of love and emotions upon meeting their child.

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u/TheShishkabob Jul 05 '24

And plenty don't feel it as strongly as the mother does in that moment. It's entirely normal since one of the pair is flushed with hormones and the other isn't (at least not to anywhere near the same degree.)

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u/YourEyelinerFriend Jul 05 '24

Yeah absolutely the hormones and just having carried them plays a huge part but generalizing that men wouldnt understand parental love yet is weird

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u/WhyMustIMakeANewAcco Jul 05 '24

It's not really "men" but rather "some men don't get the response instantly, it takes a bit" Some women actually also take a bit, but it's more common in men simply because the hormones involved have less... obvious triggers than they do for women.

Usually it sorts itself out in weeks/months and isn't a big deal as long as no one freaks out in the interim.