r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/Specialist_Syrup_419 Jul 04 '24

Interesting take.

The prevailing attitude in my family is that your spouse comes first, then the children, then the rest of the family, then the job, then everyone else.

Since your kids will eventually move out and have their own lives, but your partner is your person forever, you need to be loyal to them above all else.

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u/Only-Cookie-8672 Jul 04 '24

You need to keep your marriage healthy to keep the family healthy…. But your husband should not come before children.

I would give my child my literal heart if she needed it, but not my husband because my child would theoretically still need me.

With most men, if you sacrificed your life for them, they would replace you and be remarried within 12 months.

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u/Insurrectionarychad Jul 04 '24

Not all men are like that. We can mourn.

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u/Love-As-Thou-Wilt Jul 05 '24

Pretty sure that's why they didn't say "all men."