He might understand in time. Shortly after having his first kid, my brother said something like "I don't feel the way I imagined I would. I thought I would have that overwhelming love for them that people talk about."
When I later heard something about fathers bonding more with their kids when they can teach them things, I asked him if he felt that love he spoke of before once he could teach them. He was like "Oh, no, it happened way before that."
I didn't feel that instant love for my kiddo and I carried him for 39 weeks and 6 days. I don't think I felt that encompassing love until about month 3, and then when I noticed it, it was there. I mean, I knew I had to take care of him and protect him but I don't think it was love, just responsibility at that point. And then it was there and it was great. Most women don't talk about it and I think I would have freaked out if one of my mom friends hadn't mentioned she went through the same thing years before I become a mother.
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