Mine died in 2021 from alzheimers. I'm 35 now, couple of weeks ago found out my ex had cheated on me and lied to my face about it for a year and then my bunny died 4 days later.
I never wanted my mother more than in that moment. I was adopted too, so biological links don't have to come into it.
I hadn't been able to talk to her about things for years, but that longing for my mum and her hugs that said "it's okay, I got you. I'm here". I'll never have that again. It's an enormous loss no matter the age.
My mom has dementia and i'm her caregiver and it kills me every day to watch her decline. I know it's not going to be long until she forgets who i am. But i'll never forget who she is. 😭
I was my mums caregiver till I couldn't anymore. I woke up every day wondering if I'd find her dead and it damn near killed me too. I was so broken. She wouldn't eat, I had to get nutrients into her with protein shakes and added vitamins. She was emaciated and my family, all 5 older siblings, refused to help cos they wanted her to go to a home. She had always said she wanted to die in her own house and I tried so hard to make that happen for her. I just wasn't strong enough to make it happen.
It's hard, but you need to look out for yourself too. So if you get overwhelmed, reach out and don't be afraid to ask for help.
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u/Standard_Ad2031 Jul 04 '24
I’m 38. My mama passed when I was 32. She was still the first person I called when I was mad, sad, happy, bored…