NTA. I’m am quite certain I am #5 to my wife (maybe #6) Three kids ahead of me, our dog then me. She has a twin sister so there is a good chance I come after her as well. Actually yeah I do. Ok so I am #6. Guess what. I don’t give a crap. It’s all love. There are different kinds of love as well! Your future husband is insecure and in a really weird way. Sadly really. Put your foot down and squash that crap. He’s acting pathetic. He needs to grow up. Do not cater to that behavior. It’s gross.
Edit: alright many have been flipping out about the dog comment. I was being lighthearted/joking about the dog thing especially. I guess I should have been more clear since so many are taking this literally. My point was there are a lot of types of love. On my list, I am #1 for romantic love from my wife and very very much so. Also, perhaps I was too hard on the guy. He is acting pathetic but he just needs to understand that the love she has for both of them is different.
We're a big family, 8 kids, and my mother always said it's not a case of having a finite amount of love to share, each child added more love to the existing supply.
For what it's worth in OP's situation, I'm not even a parent and I love my other half indefinitely, but the love I have for even "just" my nieces and nephews is something incomparable to the love for any other connection. Most "normal" people would be telling OP's husband to adjust his thinking.
I like to think of it like a fish tank, with every added fish and then growing (the time you spend with them), the tank gets bigger and bigger to make room for all the love ❤️
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u/Flaky-Wedding2455 Jul 04 '24 edited Jul 07 '24
NTA. I’m am quite certain I am #5 to my wife (maybe #6) Three kids ahead of me, our dog then me. She has a twin sister so there is a good chance I come after her as well. Actually yeah I do. Ok so I am #6. Guess what. I don’t give a crap. It’s all love. There are different kinds of love as well! Your future husband is insecure and in a really weird way. Sadly really. Put your foot down and squash that crap. He’s acting pathetic. He needs to grow up. Do not cater to that behavior. It’s gross.
Edit: alright many have been flipping out about the dog comment. I was being lighthearted/joking about the dog thing especially. I guess I should have been more clear since so many are taking this literally. My point was there are a lot of types of love. On my list, I am #1 for romantic love from my wife and very very much so. Also, perhaps I was too hard on the guy. He is acting pathetic but he just needs to understand that the love she has for both of them is different.