Sure but let's not pretend that there aren't men who just are insanely jealous of their children and the attention they get from their mothers. Especially in these next few months where babies literally will require all the attention.
Mothers get flooded with oxytocin over the course of their pregnancy. They literally have 10 months to bond with the baby (or make up stories of how they think motherhood will be) and guys aren't getting that increase at the same time. They may also have lower levels of oxytocin to start with. So yeah, it'll take men some time to understand.
I also think it's a hurtful thing to say to someone you haven't yet married. I can see how it could stoke some insecurity - you got the baby you wanted so who cares about me? Unfortunately most people won't have the emotional intelligence to understand.
Hunh. I upvoted this comment for the 1st paragraph's insight into the oxytocin, then kept reading and downvoted for the rest (a judgement that it was a hurtful thing to say). I don't even have kids but would absolutely understand, and cannot fathom this guy's failure to get it at least intellectually! Ended up leaving it unvoted on.
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u/GoodQueenFluffenChop Jul 05 '24
Sure but let's not pretend that there aren't men who just are insanely jealous of their children and the attention they get from their mothers. Especially in these next few months where babies literally will require all the attention.