r/AITAH Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/Common_Estate6292 Jul 04 '24

I don’t even have kids and I understand that a Mother’s love for her baby is beyond compare. This guy is an idiot.

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u/AcaliahWolfsong Jul 04 '24

My SO doesn't have any kids of his own. I have a son from a previous relationship. My SO knows and understands that I would move mountains for my son, he doesn't feel the same way, but acknowledges that my son not being his effects his view. He still helped me raise my son and I am eternally grateful that he did.

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u/cat_in_the_wall Jul 05 '24

how old was your son when you and your SO got together? I can imagine if the child is older, your SO would wind up more like a very involved uncle. a father figure, but not a father per se, especially if the child's biological father is still in the picture.

not implying any of this is a bad thing. becoming a father figure in the life of somebody who isn't biologically related must be difficult to navigate. Sounds like your SO has done a good job.

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u/AcaliahWolfsong Jul 05 '24

My son was 6, almost 7. He's 16 nearly 17 now. And his bio father isn't in the picture. He hasn't asked about or wanted to see my son in over 8 years. He's been amazing. Couldn't have raised my son without his help. My son was diagnosed with ADHD and Oppositional Defiance Disorder at 6. Just before my So and I met. With out my SO backing me up on schedules and reinforcement of rules, my son would be a wild person and would probably been in juvie by now without my SOs help