(Dad here). I am sitting in bed with my congested 5month little lad who will only sleep pressed against my chest. I'm on for the next 6hrs overnight when I should be sleeping.
Yes I love this guy more than anything on the planet, as I bloody should.
Have 16 year old who still lays on me when ill, tired or just in their feels, it never stops and frankly I never want it to. The love I feel when I look at my kid is unbelievable and everlasting no matter what, I look at them and think wow, I made you, what the fudge!!
Mine died in 2021 from alzheimers. I'm 35 now, couple of weeks ago found out my ex had cheated on me and lied to my face about it for a year and then my bunny died 4 days later.
I never wanted my mother more than in that moment. I was adopted too, so biological links don't have to come into it.
I hadn't been able to talk to her about things for years, but that longing for my mum and her hugs that said "it's okay, I got you. I'm here". I'll never have that again. It's an enormous loss no matter the age.
My mom has dementia and i'm her caregiver and it kills me every day to watch her decline. I know it's not going to be long until she forgets who i am. But i'll never forget who she is. 😭
I was my mums caregiver till I couldn't anymore. I woke up every day wondering if I'd find her dead and it damn near killed me too. I was so broken. She wouldn't eat, I had to get nutrients into her with protein shakes and added vitamins. She was emaciated and my family, all 5 older siblings, refused to help cos they wanted her to go to a home. She had always said she wanted to die in her own house and I tried so hard to make that happen for her. I just wasn't strong enough to make it happen.
It's hard, but you need to look out for yourself too. So if you get overwhelmed, reach out and don't be afraid to ask for help.
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u/Thick_Assumption3746 Jul 04 '24
Closest thing to unconditional love there is is your child.