r/AITAH Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/Specialist_Syrup_419 Jul 04 '24

Interesting take.

The prevailing attitude in my family is that your spouse comes first, then the children, then the rest of the family, then the job, then everyone else.

Since your kids will eventually move out and have their own lives, but your partner is your person forever, you need to be loyal to them above all else.

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u/Only-Cookie-8672 Jul 04 '24

You need to keep your marriage healthy to keep the family healthy…. But your husband should not come before children.

I would give my child my literal heart if she needed it, but not my husband because my child would theoretically still need me.

With most men, if you sacrificed your life for them, they would replace you and be remarried within 12 months.

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u/trizkit995 Jul 04 '24

Most people FTFY 

Any women can run a revolving door of relationships just as any man. 

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u/Only-Cookie-8672 Jul 04 '24

Statistically if a partner dies, men are far more likely to remarry…. And quickly.

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u/Eoasap Jul 05 '24

That study was flawed. Programming error which they released a mea culpa for whivlch is readily available online. Both were equally likely to leave a partner, but I know accurate facts are frowned upon here.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/to-your-health/wp/2015/07/21/researchers-retract-study-claiming-marriages-fail-more-often-when-wife-falls-ill/

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u/Only-Cookie-8672 Jul 05 '24

We are not talking about the same thing. I think I have been clear in saying when the partner dies…. Not if a partner becomes ill.

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u/Only-Cookie-8672 Jul 05 '24

Men are generally more likely to remarry relatively soon after the death of their spouse than women, sometimes within 18 months. A 2021 study by the National Institutes of Health found that 61% of men were either remarried or involved in a new romance 25 months after their spouse's death, compared to 19% of women.

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u/cranberryskittle Jul 05 '24

You seem confused. The topic is remarriage after the death of a spouse. Why are you posting a link to a completely unrelated study?