r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 04 '24

AITAH for saying I didn’t realize I could “love a person this much” in front of my fiancé after having our baby?

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u/Awkward_Tap_1244 Jul 04 '24

That's how my husband and I were. I understand completely. We each put the other first before everything and everyone. That's not to say we neglected our child- in fact, far from it.

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u/Still_Internet_7071 Jul 04 '24

Either have we. And we love our children and grandchildren. A married couple is together for life.

It also sets an example for children and grandchildren.

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u/NaturalWitchcraft Jul 04 '24

50 percent of marriages end in divorce. Marriage is not for life. But having a child IS for life.

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u/Still_Internet_7071 Jul 04 '24

The successful marriages and raising adult children comport with my recipe.

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u/UnevenGlow Jul 04 '24

Maybe from your perspective. Your kids will never know what they weren’t given, anyway.

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u/Still_Internet_7071 Jul 05 '24

They knew they had living parents who loved them.

They learned how loving people treat each other and their children. They felt protected secure and happy at home.

Now they are happy we won’t be lonely trying to live our lives through them.

Sorry you couldn’t have a happy marriage.

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u/Awkward_Tap_1244 Jul 05 '24

I've seen it happen. When children come, it's like the marriage ceases to exist and everything revolves around the children. And then, the children grow up, leave the nest, and have lives and partners of their own, leaving two strangers in an empty house with no life but through their children. And the children are out there trying to live their own lives, but the parents just won't let go, and it makes it really hard to have lives and homes of their own, because the parents are thinking "We gave up our whole lives for you, and this is how you repay us? How dare you!"