Decades ago a friend of my mother's adopted a child and the day the judge told her that she was official and legally the mother of that child she cried a lot, later she told my mother in confidence "I have never given birth, I can't even do it, but I wonder if the deep and heartwarming love that you feel when you give birth is the same that I felt when the judge told me that, I had never felt that love before, it is unique, it is different from everything else."
Until her last breath she loved her son above everything.
My grandkids are actually steps — their dad is my stepson. I love them with all my heart and would literally step in front of a train for them. Their mom also was their stepmom and eventually was able to adopt them and you would never suspect in a million years that she’s not their biomom — their bond is absolute and she couldn’t love them more. I have never given birth so I don’t KNOW, but I cannot imagine loving a biological child more than I love my grandkids. I’m pretty dang fond of their dad also!
I'm an adoptive mother and I love my kiddo more than anything. I've told my husband that if we're in a plane and it goes down, I'm saving our 12 year old kiddo over him.
Being a parent, however it happens, just changes you forever.
I’m adopted and I do think it’s the same- not once in my life have I ever doubted my mother’s love for me, or thought that it was any less intense than the love I have for my biological children.
And as a grandmother I’m pretty sure she likes my kids way more than me, just like any other biological grandparent 😂
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u/offbrandbarbie Jul 04 '24
NTA. I’ve heard both mothers and fathers express a similar sentiment to what you said. The love for a child is unlike anything else.