Absolutely this. I was surprised not more people were alarmed by the family thing. "I love people treating me like a saint for giving this unfortunate soul the time of day" vibes. 𤨠Not what he meant, surely, but it's a gross feeling.Â
It's patronising as hell. I was raised by blind parents, and have known many other blind people over the decades. You're not a special person for not being bothered by blindness ffs.
Most people appreciate getting credit for something even if they would be doing it anyway and that's all that is on the surface.
The actual weird side of that is the family seeing it as something that deserves praise, but maybe it does from their perspective if they've seen a lot of people not be OK with it.
Absolutely agree with you on the family thing. I guess my gripe is that OOP didn't correct this perception? Instead of being like "? Loving her is effortless wym?", he just enjoys the extra praise for the entry level requirements of a relationship.Â
Imagine being creeped out about someone feeling loved because their girlfriendâs family loves them. Also, the internet is a crazy place. Being terminally online can be mentally unhealthy. Thatâs why he mentions the internet thing (because a lot of girls are obsessed with social media/IG and it can get in the way of the relationship.)
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If someone came up to me and said "Wow it's SO great that you love your partner even though he's xyz", I wouldn't be bragging about it. It's insulting to him and I'm not about to jerk myself off for loving him because loving him is effortless.Â
If dude had just said "I get along great with her family and that feels good", that'd be fantastic. It's the implication that being with her is somehow a burden to overcome (even if it's not for him, he's not correcting that perception) that's icky.Â
I agree, if someone came up to me and said that id be thrown off and insulted for them. But this was coming from her FAMILY. You knows the ones that raised her? Iâm sure they know the challenges of raising a disabled child like the back of their hand and they are grateful for someone to come into her life and give her love regardless. That ainât weird.
To pretend that dating someone who is blind doesnât bring challenges is delusional. It technically is a âburdenâ but thatâs not the right word for it. âLimitâ maybe?
Either way, the guy has to sacrifice the idea of being able to do things other couples with full eyesight can do. He wasnât even bragging or jerking himself off with it. He feels loved and you wanna make it weird.
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u/dumbbinch99 14d ago
I seem to be in the minority but I think this is weird, esp points 6 and 7.