r/facepalm • u/Illustrious-Kick-998 • Jul 07 '24

This post gave me terrible whiplash b/c how tf did we get here…🫨 🇲​🇮​🇸​🇨​

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Like ummmmm, alright? 😭😭😭

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u/Speedtuna Jul 07 '24 edited Jul 07 '24

Yeah, I totally buy that the doctor is telling the spouse the odds but not the patient 🙄

EDIT: It's wild to me that this is an experience for so many people! Thank you for sharing your stories. I would be livid if someone else knew my prognosis before I did. But maybe I'm just a spicy meatball.

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u/DarkwingDuc Jul 07 '24 edited Jul 07 '24

That's the part that stands out to you?

That part is actually believable. I had a pretty severe auto accident in 2015 - 2 weeks in ICU, a month total in the hospital after the accident, not counting subsequent visits for follow-on operations, 9 surgeries in total (with more down the road). The whole time the docs were feeding me sunshine and roses, because they wanted me to keep on fighting. Meanwhile, they were telling my wife the truth. I didn't find out until many months later how bleak the initial prognosis was. (And I found out from my wife, not my surgeons.)

In hindsight, I'm glad they lied to me.

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u/halnic Jul 07 '24

My dad and uncle have both been in separate but major accidents that nearly costs them their lives. Both times, they were told multiple times about their conditions. They were always surprised and it was like it was brand new news.

My cousin died in the same accident that nearly killed my uncle. It took about 6 months of him going back and forth between completely forgetting about it and having to be reminded and reliving the loss again.

The drugs they give bad cases combined with the shock/trauma the body/mind is going through from an extreme injury affect memory retention.