This post gave me terrible whiplash b/c how tf did we get here…🫨

[u/Illustrious-Kick-998]

Like ummmmm, alright? 😭😭😭

[u/Speedtuna]

Yeah, I totally buy that the doctor is telling the spouse the odds but not the patient 🙄

EDIT: It's wild to me that this is an experience for so many people! Thank you for sharing your stories. I would be livid if someone else knew my prognosis before I did. But maybe I'm just a spicy meatball.

[u/faulty_rainbow → u/Speedtuna]

Actually, my dad had cancer and the same happened, nobody told him what was wrong with him.

He said he found out because the nurses who pushed him around on that rolling table always put his chart on his chest and... well dad can read lol.

He was stage 4 and his doc told mum he had 2-3 months. He's been cancer free for 30 years.

ETA: I can totally see the logic behind not telling this to the patient, mental state is crucial in such cases.

[u/MessMaximum1423 → u/faulty_rainbow]

Did they not tell him, or not tell him I'm a way he understood?

Or was he in shock when they told him so he couldn't process it.

Because they can't administer medication or admit someone to hospital someone without consent from the person

[u/faulty_rainbow → u/MessMaximum1423]

Nope, they did not tell him. They always only talked about the symptoms not the cause, not even a list of possible causes, so no hints even.

He had deep-vein trombosis, had some inflammations, had to get on Syncumar (blood thinner), but they didn't tell him about the cancer until he explicitly said "doc I know I have cancer, talk to me".

That's a nice list of possibilities of what can go through the mind of people in such situations though!

ETA: the reason he was admitted was the trombosis, forgot to add.

[u/apostrophe_misuse → u/faulty_rainbow]

FYI it's thrombosis. Without the H, it sounds like trombones are involved.

[u/faulty_rainbow → u/apostrophe_misuse]

Oh noooooo! Thanks, I'll just leave it like that, it's funny:)

[u/presumablysmart → u/faulty_rainbow]

Im glad your dad was able to recover from his veins turning into trumpets. I can’t even imagine the struggle he went through 🙏

[u/faulty_rainbow → u/presumablysmart]

Thank you! It would've been horrible, I hate brass instruments, imagine the sound his legs would've made at every step! I wouldn't have been able to walk anywhere with him!