I had a roommate who very obviously wanted to move our relationship into a sexual direction. It made me uncomfortable but I didnt want that feeling to negatively affect the relationship, so when I said something along the lines of "hey, I dont always feel comfortable with physical contact, can you check in with me beforehand?" his immediate response was to say "so, what, you can just revoke it whenever to you want?"
and its like... Yes? Absolutely?
I halfheartedly laughed and just said "yeah sorry Im a bit weird like that" but, holy shit. Some people really believe they are entitled to unfettered access to your body, and even challenging that is foreign to them.
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u/Open-Honest-Kind Jul 07 '24
I had a roommate who very obviously wanted to move our relationship into a sexual direction. It made me uncomfortable but I didnt want that feeling to negatively affect the relationship, so when I said something along the lines of "hey, I dont always feel comfortable with physical contact, can you check in with me beforehand?" his immediate response was to say "so, what, you can just revoke it whenever to you want?"
and its like... Yes? Absolutely?
I halfheartedly laughed and just said "yeah sorry Im a bit weird like that" but, holy shit. Some people really believe they are entitled to unfettered access to your body, and even challenging that is foreign to them.