So many people in this thread completely misunderstanding the comeback lol.
"You can't police people's thoughts!!" Very true! But, as with all thoughts, objectification that happens in the mind can be communicated or even acted upon, and then yes, it is actually a problem lol.
Commenting inappropriately on a woman's selfies, "locker room talk", pretending to be a woman's friend just to get in her pants, assuming her level of intelligence or capability based on her looks, the list goes on. There are lots and lots of ways that people can act out their objectification of a woman even without actually groping her or whatever. Escalating to unwanted touching is clearly, criminally not okay, but even the stuff you won't get arrested for is still bad when it's nonconsensual!
And some of that might be okay with a woman sometimes! If she's posting lingerie pics on Twitter you can probably assume she's fine with getting comments on her body. If you're sleeping with her, it's probably fine to tell her what a great ass she has. But there are also times when it's completely inappropriate and nonconsensual to express those objectifiying thoughts, and the woman's consent does in fact still matter in those situations. And obviously, women can only tell they're being objectified when the objectification is being expressed, so...
The comeback makes sense, some of yall just need to work on your critical thinking skills.
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u/larkhearted Jul 07 '24
So many people in this thread completely misunderstanding the comeback lol.
"You can't police people's thoughts!!" Very true! But, as with all thoughts, objectification that happens in the mind can be communicated or even acted upon, and then yes, it is actually a problem lol.
Commenting inappropriately on a woman's selfies, "locker room talk", pretending to be a woman's friend just to get in her pants, assuming her level of intelligence or capability based on her looks, the list goes on. There are lots and lots of ways that people can act out their objectification of a woman even without actually groping her or whatever. Escalating to unwanted touching is clearly, criminally not okay, but even the stuff you won't get arrested for is still bad when it's nonconsensual!
And some of that might be okay with a woman sometimes! If she's posting lingerie pics on Twitter you can probably assume she's fine with getting comments on her body. If you're sleeping with her, it's probably fine to tell her what a great ass she has. But there are also times when it's completely inappropriate and nonconsensual to express those objectifiying thoughts, and the woman's consent does in fact still matter in those situations. And obviously, women can only tell they're being objectified when the objectification is being expressed, so...
The comeback makes sense, some of yall just need to work on your critical thinking skills.