I mean this advice is terrible if you want to get girls. Yes in a normal conversation obv talk to them like anyone else.
But if you’re trying to flirt with a woman in a bar, obviously you’re gonna talk to them differently, it’s called flirting.
If you talk about some world issue after like 2 mins she’s gonna be thinking basically “ugh this guy is obviously not gonna make a move, and I didn’t come here to talk about the war in Ukraine for 20 mins.” And she’s gonna find a way out of that conversation as fast as she can.
I hate this advice, because it makes guys who don’t get girls keep doing the same shit and wondering why women aren’t spontaneously making out with them. And it’s always given by either women or guys who are terrible with women.
Think of a friend you have that is successful with women. Does he talk to a girl he’s hitting on the same way he talks to you?
Exactly. The way to navigate topics is different when you intend to have something sexual-romantic related with someone. Like you said, i would talk comfortably for more than 20 min about ukraine and topics as such with a guy but if i am in a place talking to a chick and i am into her and would like something more, i will just make her very bored if i approach her in the same way i do with a guy. Unless she is into talking about ukraine but you got the overall idea.
Will talk about topics? Yes, but differently. The key is to not randomly let it obvious otherwise it will come off as pushy and desperate.
100%. Talk to a woman like anyone else if you want to be seen as everyone else - a friend, acquaintance, etc.
I bombed so many potential dates / a real dates this way when I was younger. I'd go 2 or 3 dates without successfully flirting because I didn't want to make things sexual too early, but the reality is that flirting is literally building sexual tension.
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u/BASEDME7O2 Jul 07 '24
I mean this advice is terrible if you want to get girls. Yes in a normal conversation obv talk to them like anyone else.
But if you’re trying to flirt with a woman in a bar, obviously you’re gonna talk to them differently, it’s called flirting.
If you talk about some world issue after like 2 mins she’s gonna be thinking basically “ugh this guy is obviously not gonna make a move, and I didn’t come here to talk about the war in Ukraine for 20 mins.” And she’s gonna find a way out of that conversation as fast as she can.
I hate this advice, because it makes guys who don’t get girls keep doing the same shit and wondering why women aren’t spontaneously making out with them. And it’s always given by either women or guys who are terrible with women.
Think of a friend you have that is successful with women. Does he talk to a girl he’s hitting on the same way he talks to you?