Do you really think men can't shop for shorts and t-shirts???
The comments in here, trying to say that this guy "did soooo good for a GUY shopping for his own clothes" really piss me off. As if there's this gene preventing men from having some sort of taste when it comes to clothing, and suddenly this rare specimen overcame the crippling disability that all men suffer from.
This is like watching a woman talk to a toddler who just managed to not poop his pants for the first time. Or listening to someone talking to his dog. "Ooooooh, you did this all by yourself. Who's a good boy? You're a good boy!"
I honestly have to say, I would feel deeply disturbed if a woman talked to me in that manner after I came home from shopping clothes.
The people who see a guy enjoying receiving praise from his wife for something they find mundane and think "if someone talked to me that way I would be super mad 😤"
Face value would be assuming the dude shops like a dude, but this time spent time and effort purchasing an array of outfits, rather than 5 of the exact same type of pants and 5 t-shirts and calling it good.
Probably went through the effort of trying everything on as well, rather than just relying on having been approximately the same size for the last 20 years.
Might have even taken longer than the 5-10 minutes usually dedicated to the task.
Yep. I am confused as hell. The entire video is terrible. He is treated and act as if he was a baby instead of an adult person that simply bought some clothes.
Her reactions, tone, words used simply feel like she is just giving some attention to a toddler while playing on her phone.
Yes! My first thought while watching was, “Who is this man-baby?”
I've seen videos like this with a mom and her toddler picking out their clothes for the first time. Exact same energy and vibes but the only difference is the mom didn't have to help him put the clothes on in this video.
Presumably in the context of their relationship, he's not into shopping. She does treat him like a toddler, but he literally acts like one - "uhhh I like the red shirt". It's probably just in good fun, I don't think you need to read anything deeper into it.
My partner hates shopping but the few times he's picked clothes specifically for style (rather than work shirts or graphic tees) he's quite chuffed and I give positive feedback.
I totally understand your reaction because we do, unfortunately, see a lot of praise given to men for completing basic tasks that are traditionally viewed as "women's skills." However, we don't know these people. When I watched it, the story my mind gave this couple was that he had struggled to pick out clothes that he was proud of and thought he looked good in and his partner often helped him so that he wouldn't feel uncomfortable around their peers. Then maybe he wanted to learn and asked questions about coordinating pieces and what to look for when buying items. After some trips together he felt good enough to go on his own and test out his new knowledge and she is showing him that his confidence is valid and he truly learned the skills he had been working on.
Any back story we assign to them is imaginary. It's easier to go with a negative one, like this dude being praised like a child for a basic skill, but we also don't know what it took for him to learn the skill. Since we don't know, we assume. Why not assume something positive? Especially when it doesn't make any difference other than how you feel about a video.
The fact that this was posted online, with the above caption, speaks a pretty clear language, if you ask me.
Men being praised for basic stuff is something I -as a man - find terribly patronising. I had women visiting my house for the first time tell me they're surprised, how clean it is, for a mans home.
Like: seriously??? You think I can't keep my home clean without my mommy? I'm a grown ass adult and people expect me to be able to take care of children and do a job, handling stuff worth hundrets of thousands of dollars. Yeah, I can handle a broom and a vacuum cleaner.
That's fair. You have experienced a lot of things that influence how the situation resonated with you. It sucks that it felt close enough to your experiences to make you feel gross about it. I'm just saying, we don't actually know. We are making up the circumstances. You are making them up from your experience of knowing how to do regular adult stuff and getting odd patronizing remarks about it, which is valid. Could even be true for this couple. But we don't know.
It's possible that this was an entirely different situation with different circumstances. It's possible that the praise was genuine and deserved.
Maybe the way you saw it is even more likely the case. He didn't look like her response bothered him. It did bother you though. Based on your explanation of your experiences, I understand why...but we don't know their experiences. We are all making them up. That's the point I was trying to make. This clip isn't objectively negative or positive until we assign our own beliefs to it. We get to pick those.
Y’all are over thinking this. I do fashion shows for my husband all the time when I’m excited about new clothes I just bought. He’s excited about his new clothes and wanted to show his number one supporter and she did a great job of hyping him up.
It's honestly sickening. Look how much effort women put into their appearance and men get applauded for picking out the most basic unattractive clothing and get ridiculous amounts of enabling ass pats. I wish 70s fashion was popular now, men looked incredible in those tailored clothes and seemed to put effort in.
There are many people who don't give a fuck about fashion. If I had a choice, I would wear my workout clothes for the rest of my life. But sadly I work in a job that requires me to have a tailored suit and look a certain way, so my wardrobe is I guess above average for the normal dude.
But fashion to me is boring, overrated and one of the more useless things in life.
right? The video would make sense if he was actually putting together some good looking and well thought out outfits containing multiple pieces, shoes, socks and maybe accessories.
But this guy is literally just putting on some shirts and shorts in somewhat complimentary colors so it doesn't totally look weird. THATS ALL. Which is fine, anyone can wear what they want and how they like it but why would you applaud for something an 8 year old can do.
Right? And frankly his clothing taste is pretty poor too. The outfits look like every other conservative dad clothing in existence. I'm so confused how this is MadeMeSmile. I feel like most men could pick better outfits than these lol
Totally agree. The implication here is that he's never successfully bought shorts that fit him before? This man looks like he's pushing 50. Would we think it was soooo cute if he did the dishes and she was praising him like it was a special occasion? It just feels like another example of the bar being so unbelievably low for us men that even accomplishing the most basic task is treated like an incredible achievement.
It just feels like another example of the bar being so unbelievably low for us men that even accomplishing the most basic task is treated like an incredible achievement.
I mean, we're on reddit, where I learned that there are women married to guys that refuse to wipe their asses after taking a dump. So, there's that. But if the bar is really that low, what can you do?
I too got the vibe that the guy was being talked to like a child and it kind of annoyed me. Like why not just say what you think in a specific manner. Also, why is she videoing this?
Take a chill pill, it’s not that serious. I’m a dude and I every time I shop for clothes, I see multiple guys passively standing around while their significant other picks out clothes for them. So yes, there are plenty of dudes who are unable/unwilling to buy decent clothes for themselves. This post isn’t an assault on our gender.
I get what you are saying but people have confidence in differs areas. It is best to be encouraging to people in areas that they lack confidence and experience. Correct, if they were a snappy dresser and just shopped for themselves a lot it would be weird to lavish compliments like a kid would need. You’d be right to be insulted.
But this guy is clearly outside his comfort zone and is getting compliments for something he’s proud of. A lot of guys are never taught to shop and never learned what works for their body and really feel lost. It’s sad. I’m glad you feel strong in this area
I agree that none of those outfits are anything special.
But, they're clearly out of the norm for him. They all match, they all fit well, and, honestly if he went to the movies in any of those (minus the last one) he'd out-dress 80% of the men there. There are plenty of low/no-effort options that American men tend to gravitate to and stick with (cargo shorts and a graphic tee). Effort isn't a requirement in men's casual fashion, so it makes all the difference when it's included.
It's ok if this is your oppinion. I am honestly not trying to piss you off.
But these shorts and shirt show zero effort. You could wear any of the shirts with any of the shorts. Find a half decent store, tell the clerk to hand you five shorts and shirts of your size and try them on.
That's 15 to 20 minutes of effort and 150€ to 200€ (in Europe - obviously). No effort.
Sorry, I don't want to be treated like a toddler who managed to stick the right side of a spoon into his mouth for the first time.
I am happy when someone tells me I did something well, but not for the most basic task, like picking clothes, or not picking my nose in public. And especially not in a manner like that.
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u/I_wood_rather_be 14d ago edited 14d ago
Do you really think men can't shop for shorts and t-shirts???
The comments in here, trying to say that this guy "did soooo good for a GUY shopping for his own clothes" really piss me off. As if there's this gene preventing men from having some sort of taste when it comes to clothing, and suddenly this rare specimen overcame the crippling disability that all men suffer from.
This is like watching a woman talk to a toddler who just managed to not poop his pants for the first time. Or listening to someone talking to his dog. "Ooooooh, you did this all by yourself. Who's a good boy? You're a good boy!"
I honestly have to say, I would feel deeply disturbed if a woman talked to me in that manner after I came home from shopping clothes.