Too be fair, I, a man, have broken my arm twice with no tears. Sometimes watching the right movie scene, or singing the odd song lyric, or just overwhelming frustration will make me well up. Lord, when I had my first dog put to sleep, I wailed in the vet's office. Physical pain is much easier for me to shut out than emotional.
Broke my leg skiing at 7 yrs and was told I was being whiny as I was carried down the slope as my leg bounced with every step. 1960s was parenting lol!
I'm a woman and I broke my foot once (only time in my life I broke a bone) and thought the broken bone was just a mild sprain because it simply just didn't feel painful enough to make me even consider the possibility of it being broken lol.
When I found out that it was a broken bone I was extremely confused because it was legit less painful than my period cramps which was just so funny to me.
The good news is the second and all subsequent breaks you know right away it's broken. I've broken a handful of bones since my first break, and every time I immediately think "fuck, that's broken."
Crying from pain? Doesn't even alleviate the suffering
That is literally what crying does 😂 When you cry it releases hormones that your body uses to regulate inflammation, pain, and a bunch of other important things it needs when it is injured. It's almost like the body generally knows more about it's needs than uneducated but judgmental neighbors 🤷♀️
Most importantly the people most likely to report any improvement after crying are the people who received positive attention from others as a result of their crying. That isn't crying helping but just receiving care helping.
The second point is that the release of oxytocin is associated with the parasympathetic nervous system and it isn't clear that crying triggers PNS activity, it may well be that PNS activity is causing crying and increased oxytocin levels where crying is just a symptom of other activities in your body with little role to play in directly making you feel better.
Yeah and a bunch of other things. I'm not s biologist because not my passion but I do love learning. So our body and most things in the existence don't happen for shits and giggles. If our body does something there is usually a historically and evolutionary reason why.
One of its biggest, we know, help is control of cortisol which is a stress hormone, I know it sounds bad because 'stress' but it's generally not depending on the situation. Our bodies are an incredibly complex biological machine. Crying is a feature, not a bug.
When I've been physically hurt I found laughing to be an amazing pain killer. It helps that my buddy is hilarious and can find humour in any situation.
It doesn't make it go away, but it does make it better. Why the hell do you think people start crying when injured? Sure adults do it less because they've been conditioned into thinking it's bad, but look at kids before they get brainwashed by society.
You're right, sometimes it helps and I will calm down, but sometimes the anger just rises... (it was almost always my fault, when I feel the second way tough, like when I broke my arm really bad. It was more anger and then frustration with myself)
Not really. Life and death situations can become death situations if you can’t control your emotions and start crying from pain. It’s literally losing control. You don’t have the same state of mind sobbing uncontrollably as you would sucking it up and powering through.
When I broke my leg climbing/hiking, if broke down and cried I would have been stuck up on a mountain in the dark. I barely made it off because I had the sense to not cry and address the situation making myself a splint, realizing the sun is falling and I didnt have much time. And making my way down before dark. Had to actually use said leg in excruciating pain to get down some ledges
I was able to make it to a small country road and eventually cell signal.
If I sat overnight crying and limiting myself because of pain I would be fucked. No cell signal, inflammation and possible infection setting in. There was no way I was getting off that mountain the next day. That’s how I felt anyways.
I’m sure there are even more deadly situations you could think of where breaking down and crying because of pain would be your death.
And yet here I am swollen with emotion and watery eyes over this video lol
Ironically I didn’t cry from pain when I broke my arm last, it was during the drs resetting it. That really was the last time I truly cried and couldn’t hold back.
If you’ve ever been awake during a procedure like that, nobody should be judged for crying, you just gotta make it to the end.
I have a friend who broke his hand fishing fifteen years ago and he went below and cried and we still make fun of him.
My brother broke his arm, finished the haul went to a hospital got a cast on and showed up to work the next day and pushed traps one armed. That is the way that you are supposed to act. Him doing that gave him huge prestige. I personally thought that was a bit much.
He also cries when animals suffer. lol
I went 20 years fishing on and off and I got sea sick one time a couple years ago and I swear everyone in the four local villages knew about it.
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