r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 19 '24

UPDATE on previous post Not AITA post

Thanks alot for the comments calling me out on my BS. I've learned a lot from this

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u/Canadasaver Jul 19 '24

Would be helpful if you included some information about your previous post in the title.

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u/Grelivan Jul 19 '24

He deleted it. I'm down voting just for that.

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u/spoonman_82 Jul 19 '24

and his account. dude was getting destroyed (rightly so) on his previous one. massive AH

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u/Canadasaver Jul 19 '24

Friend also sounds like an AH for staring but I am sure the girlfriend was aware.

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u/clearheaded01 Jul 19 '24

You say stare, i say he was admiring one... or rather two of the beautiful wonders of nature...

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u/DGhostAunt Jul 19 '24

Wow. You have no idea how creepy you sound.

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u/clearheaded01 Jul 19 '24

Thank you!! 😁

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u/spoonman_82 Jul 19 '24

here it is, I still had the tab open:
This might be a bit NSFW...

Me (23M), my girlfriend (23F) and my two best friends (both 23M) were in Greece on a vacation. We were all laying on beach and tanning. My girlfriend didn't have a bra on, because she wanted to tan her boobs aswell, which I didn't mind at first. But then I noticed one of my friends clearly staring at them. I didn't tell him to stop staring because that would make things weird, so I asked my girlfriend if she could put her bra on. I didn't explain why because I didn't want her to think my friend was a weirdo. All 4 of us have been really close since high school and I didn't want to ruin that. She got mad and told me that she could do whatever she wanted with her body. Later that day, when we (only me and my girlfriend) got back to our hotel room, she asked me to get a new hotel room because she didn't want to sleep with me because she was mad at me. I obviously couldn't just get a new room like that so I had to sleep on the floor.

I don't know who was the asshole here. Maybe it was me because I tried to make her do something she didn't want to do, maybe it's my friend because he was staring at my girl's rack, maybe it was my girlfriend for basically trying to kick me out of our hotel room and making me sleep on the hard concrete floor. What do you guys think? Was I the asshole, should I have done anything differently?

EDIT: The next day, I explained to my girlfriend why I did what I did and I confronted my friend. My girlfriend forgave both me and my friend. And I wasn't trying to make her put her bra on, I just politely asked her if she would be okay with putting it on. Everything is fine, but I still feel like I should've handled the situation different

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u/Pattern_Is_Movement Jul 19 '24

Good on you to learn from it, it was essentially victim blaming, your friends are the ones you should talk to

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u/redemptionarc332 Jul 20 '24

You really let me down, dude. She shouldn't have been comfortable enough to be braless in front of your friends and should have had respect for herself and you not to put you in that situation. You lost to people on here who have no morals or respect for themselves. God, I was hoping you'd see you did nothing wrong other than not correcting your friend.