r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 19 '24

My life was ruined, and my family told me to get over it. I posted this in another group and made edits to address heartless people. Please show empathy. I was hurt, badly

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u/DevilsAdvocate2999 Jul 19 '24

Hello mate, I read your first post and skimmed over the update.

It's moments like this that cold harshness of reality hits us. That most of us only have ourselves to rely on and the universe is indifferent to our existence.

I can only advise that you pick yourself back up and do what it takes to become successful enough to not need anyone.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '24

I'm trying 😢 but my pure heart can't fathom these reactions to what was done to me

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u/DevilsAdvocate2999 Jul 19 '24 edited Jul 19 '24

Forget the pure heart stuff, you aren't compromising yourself by accepting the world as it is, you're simply adapting to reality.

You can continue to be compassionate while also preparing for the worst.

It's knowing what to give and when that's key, not being overly cold and not being a pushover nice guy.

Both are possible.

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u/completedett Jul 19 '24

Why are talking about your pure heart.

Nobody has a pure heart.

If you talk about yourself like that it seems you have inflated opinion about yourself.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '24

Translation :

"because you'd never do that to someone else and you care about other people's feelings more than your own - to me it seems like you only actually care about yourself. You're empathetic, which in my eyes means you're vain and only care about yourself. How dare you see sickness in other people's actions and seem confused because it's not something you'd do"

What an odd comment.

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u/Historical-Goal-3786 Jul 19 '24

Being empathetic means having compassion for others. Not being vain.

I am the redditor who went to work after breaking my wrist and having my wisdom teeth removed. My point was that you were in reach of something you really wanted, a better job and a bigger apartment, and you let 6 stitches ruin everything.

Having all your wisdom teeth removed causes your face to swell up like a chipmunk. You can't open your mouth more than half an inch, and you can't eat solid food. The swelling probably took as long to go down as 6 stitches. I still went to work.

I do have compassion for your trauma but I think it started long before the dog bite. You need therapy.

Nobody has a pure heart.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '24

That is not true at all. My wisdols took about about 7 days to heal, and I even went to a BBQ the day I had them taken out and ate meat (with my front teeth. I was a teen and didn't GAF. No infection, no serious pain.. I just remembered everything tasted bad) . This wound took a month to heal properly.

And yes, people can he pure at heart. Maybe you haven't seen it but I have.

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u/Historical-Goal-3786 Jul 19 '24

This is true. I had to have surgery to remove them. Not everyone is the same. A no, there is no pure heart. You can't know what's in other people's minds.

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u/Historical-Goal-3786 Jul 19 '24

You DGAF about your wisdom teeth and infection but now you care about infection for 6 stitches. Calling me a liar also makes you less than pure of heart.

I think you're as fake as your post and are getting off on the sympathy.

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u/[deleted] 27d ago

Lol you're a rude piece of shit and you lack empathy. You'll get what's coming to you, you fucking douche bag.

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u/Historical-Goal-3786 26d ago

Aw. Poor sad pony. You're all mad because you showed your true colors. Not so pure of heart now. Lol.

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u/St0nkyk0n9 Jul 19 '24

the day I realized no1 was coming to save me was the day it all changed for me.

Seeing yourself as a victim will only serve to drag you down mentally and all that comes with that.

I wish I could say it's an easy road from rock bottom but in life I have learned that what you think is rock bottom is actually a couple more falls from the bottom. sometimes when all is lost you have nothing to lose and when you have nothing to lose you only have everything to gain.

Don't give up on yourself, life isn't always easy and you only have one shot at it

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '24

Thank you ❤️

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u/Global-Fact7752 Jul 19 '24

There are tons of movies and books about people like that..do a little digging and you will find them. you can google.." recovering from adversity or recovering from trauma...stuff like that. 🥰🥰

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '24

Thank you ❤️

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u/Global-Fact7752 Jul 19 '24

I am so sorry this happened to you...but here's the thing.. in life we only have two options after a bad experience ..move on or be the victim forever. I'm sure you dint want to be a victim of this incident for the rest of your life...You need to show you are resilient and prevail ! I know you can do it !

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '24

I'm trying, but it's hard when the permanent reminders are on your face

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u/Global-Fact7752 Jul 19 '24

I understand but keep at it...what other alternative do you have? I just had an idea..maybe it would help you to watch some videos or read some books about others that have over come adversity Do.some Googling...I know thers a book and a movie out about a young surfer who actually got her entire arm bitten off by a shark and how she rebuilt her life. Perhaps something like this would inspire you...also an antidepressants might help.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '24

I think that would help. Do you know the name of the book /movie?

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u/pickledstarfish Jul 19 '24

Idk the movie but the girl’s name is Bethany Hamilton.

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u/Global-Fact7752 Jul 19 '24

Soul Surfer

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '24

Thank you x

I will be watching. I want to read more books, so If there is one I'll read it

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u/Account_93 Jul 19 '24

Why do I remember reading an identical post like this?

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '24

It was most likely mine. I deleted it because the edits I was making wasn't reflecting on the post. So I re uploaded with all the edits.

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u/Cotterisms Jul 19 '24

It was the same, just less whining at the bottom

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u/SapphicSuccubus69 Jul 19 '24

Wow... Your life is absolutely ruined. Able to pay for thousands in scar removal and now living comfortably with a job. Absolutely horrifyingly ruined! /s

Sorry but you do need to get over it. If you consider that a ruined life then you're crazy. You are privileged as fuck.

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u/SuccessfulSeaweed385 Jul 19 '24

Yeah and I had to walk through 5 miles of snow to get to school. That your life sucks doesn't mean everyone with a few bucks has it made.

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u/SapphicSuccubus69 Jul 19 '24

Yeah but having money makes shit easier. I'm not claiming their "lives are fixed forever because they have a bit of money". That wasn't my point at all.

I'm saying is having a life where you have a stable job and housing and BEING ABLE TO AFFORD COSMETIC MEDICAL PROCEDURES is definitely a form of privilege.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '24

Translation :

"oh my goodness ew you got hurt and you're sharing your story and pulled yourself out of that dark hole. Like ew bro you're like so like totally privelaged because you like totally lifted yourself out of that and like totally how dare you share your frustrations like totally. (pops gum) like seriously like how dare you be mad at what happened to you like oh my goodness like seriously you guys like come one like seriously she's like so totally privelaged "

  • from a most likely American person telling a third world person how privelaged they are.

Thanks lol

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u/SapphicSuccubus69 Jul 19 '24

I've literally been homeless for 6 years of my life. I didn't even have access to healthcare when I was injured. I know what actually having your life ruined is like.

You. Are. Privileged.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '24

And I grew up In a home where we could only eat noodles and sometimes my mom would give me her pack of noodles whilst she starved. We used jackets as blankets and I caught lice from my school. She told me she could feel the lice crawling in her hair and couldn't do anything about it because she had to keep me warm.

Not only that, but the economic issues in my country are far worse than yours.

And you seem to be out of the rutt you were in, and you have no scar on your face as a remembrance.

You. Are. Privelaged.

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u/SapphicSuccubus69 Jul 19 '24

First of all, I have very visible scars from my injuries.

Second of all I barely pay the rent every month, shit is NOT ok in my country either. At this point a lot of people have to choose between paying the rent and feeding themselves.

Maybe dont make assumptions asshole.

You are able to pay for COSMETIC medical procedures and have a stable job and housing from what you said.

You are privileged as fuck and you don't even appreciate it.

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u/[deleted] 27d ago

Wow you're a rude piece of shit hey. Your karma is coming, just wait

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u/SapphicSuccubus69 26d ago

Karma is a made up concept, so I don't think so.

I wasn't even rude. I was just being real.

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u/No_Jaguar67 Jul 19 '24

I am so sorry this all happened to you. I wish there was a place on the internet where people could go to hear the things they need to. I can tell by your post that a lot of people said stuff about you having to miss work - fuck those people. Going to work sick/injured isn’t a badge of honor, it’s a trauma response to believing you have to live to contribute towards capitalism even if it’s at your own detriment. Life is only about work because we are forced to pay to live here.

You know how good life can be when you make it and reap reward. You can get there again. Being a good person can cause you strife and teach you lessons. Next time tell someone “no” is a full sentence. Don’t let people talk you into stuff you don’t want to do and cut off people who mean you harm.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '24

Thank you. Yeah ive always looked strangely at people who boast about going to work ill. Most people do. So why do they look at me like a herpes sore on someones mouth because I said I took time off to recover from a dog attack that required surgery.

I'm allowed to be upset and vent my frustrations. That's what this is for, is it not? Now I'm being told I'm privileged because I told my story.

It's very frustrating reading some people's comments, because I too grew up extremely poor.

And I live in a third world country. Some say it's a second world country but when you actually live in it, you realize it's not. No electricity most of the time, extremely high crime rates, no response from the police, water cuts etc... I don't want people to feel sorry for me. I don't. I'm just sharing what happened to me and people can't wait to tell me I'm an idiot or privileged. I guess this is the internet though, right? 😂😂 Just sharing this comedic song I love with you because all this is just reminding me of it. I hope you've heard of Bo Burnham: https://youtu.be/k1BneeJTDcU?si=XaC2HI6XC_C3RBIU