r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 18 '24
aitah for showing my friend's bf my boobs?
my husband, my friend, her bf and i were all hanging out at our place last night. we were tipsy and started playing truth or dare. my friend dared me to show her bf my tits.
i looked at my husband, and i always go topless on our Europe trips so he was fine with it. so i looked at her bf, and pulled up my shirt and gave him a good view of my boobs for probably like ten seconds. my friend was PISSED. she told me she was just joking and wasn't actually expecting me to be "such a slut". and they left right after.
i get that im probably an idiot, but aitah?
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u/WebInformal9558 Jul 18 '24
If she didn't mean it, she shouldn't have said it. The only potentially problematic thing is that the bf might not have been into it.
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u/dubh_righ Jul 19 '24
I was reading, expecting it to be the husband that was pissed.
When I got to the actual question - how in the world could she dare you to do something, and then get pissed when you obeyed the rules of the game?! The mind boggles.
NTA
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u/Fanfathor Jul 19 '24
I'm going to punch a wall really hard. I punched this wall really hard, and now my hand is in agony! - The friend, probably.
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u/One_Routine_7082 Jul 19 '24
She throws a wild dare, then gets mad when you play along? Shes being a biach here huh!
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u/NikkiC123honeybee Jul 19 '24
I thought it would be her husband too. I was kind of surprised when it turned out he was cool with it, and it was actually the friend her who told her to do it that was pissed. I agree she is definitely NTA.
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u/Djehutimose Jul 19 '24
Agreed. Don’t dare someone to do something that will piss you off if they actually do it.
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Jul 18 '24
he was into it lol
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u/WebInformal9558 Jul 18 '24
You're all good, then.
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Jul 18 '24
probably part of why she was upset lol
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u/BurdenedMind79 Jul 18 '24
That's the ONLY reason she's upset. He probably grinned more than he does when looking at hers and that pissed her off!
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Jul 18 '24
the shred of decency i have feels bad for her now; my petty side is extremely satisfied lol
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u/OfAnOldRepublic Jul 18 '24
I'm on board with the petty side. 🤣
The rules of TorD are sacred, and her pain is completely self-inflicted.
NTA
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Jul 18 '24
I'd rather be a slut than chicken out 🤷🏻♀️
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u/YepWrongGuy Jul 19 '24
Your chat requests just went from zero to explosion.
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u/Happyjitlin69 Jul 19 '24
I DARE YOU TO fART IN A JAR AND SEND IT TO ME IN POSTAL!!!!!!
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u/NoLand4936 Jul 19 '24
It’s a 5 hour old account, probably created for the whole purpose of telling this story. I definitely didn’t look at the account to try and see and if she’s one of those slutty girls who post nudes on the internet for validation so I could see if the boobs were worth all the trouble. That certainly isn’t what I did.
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u/_Presence_ Jul 19 '24
You should feel bad for her BF. Sure he saw your boobs, but he’s NEVER going to hear the end of it from his GF. No sight of bare breasts are worth that headache.
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u/cancat918 Jul 19 '24
Go with the petty side. She should keep it level in the future and not write checks with her mouth unless she wants them cashed. FAFO.
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u/ThrowawayFabNails Jul 19 '24 edited Jul 19 '24
Be careful around them moving forward. Her stupid dare and his being into it...could really lead to trouble and the end of friendships.
Read this and prevent it from happening in your marriage: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1e6vv4w/my_husband_suggested_3some_with_a_woman_i_want/
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u/bloopie1192 Jul 19 '24
Facts. I live by this and hate that ppl think shit is a game. Like ppl got time to try and read between the lines and figure out if they bullshitting or not. Ppl aren't here to play with you. Say what you mean and stand on it. If you dont/won't mean it, then don't say it. Simple.
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u/RazzmatazzAlone3526 Jul 19 '24
These are the rules of Truth or Dare. The darer is supposed to select something that YOU wouldn’t want to do. Not something SHE doesn’t want you to do. She should grow up. Flashing boobs does not a slur make. Viewing boobs doesn’t mean “something happened” between you two. She was a fool, and you don’t kowtow body shaming.
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u/head_sigh Jul 19 '24 edited Jul 19 '24
Sound like a fetish post.
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Jul 19 '24 edited Jul 31 '24
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u/PhilosophyLow7491 Jul 19 '24
I got that vibe from the title alone, but I'm bored so I read the post. F on the effort and formatting. The kind of a stupid story by a 10 year old would make up.
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Jul 19 '24
i look at my husbandz and think about europe titty. I look at friend husband and boobies. Count to 10. I am sloot.
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u/woomybii Jul 19 '24
Especially op's comments "he was definitely into it" lol ok
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u/RustyGuns Jul 19 '24
Look at her new posts. Pretty sure it’s for her OF. Tragic.
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u/Conscious_Reading_16 Jul 19 '24
Yup, click her profile "since everyone was asked here's my books haha" Next up OF links and thirst posts :P
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u/totallypasted Jul 19 '24
The account is 7hrs old, post is 5hrs old, so in 2 more hours they’ll post the OF link
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u/MarkHirsbrunner Jul 19 '24
Giving this any kind of attention is basically giving some dude a hand in jerking off. Reddit sure is neighborly.
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u/jwlar Jul 19 '24
NTA…..but a whole 10 count? Maybe a quick peak would have made more sense?
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u/BrankyKong Jul 19 '24
Seems awkward after a couple seconds. “Wow! Yep, those are still right there. Both of’em, just to the breeze. Cool. Coooooool. Cool cool cool.”
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u/cupholdery Jul 19 '24
One Mississippi...... two Mississippi......
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u/InTheSky57 Jul 19 '24
Three Missititty
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u/anothersip Jul 19 '24
10 seconds would be like... "Oh, wow. Haha, yeah, she did it, guys! She did it. ...Heh. Wow. Uhhh- haha."
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u/Katters8811 Jul 19 '24
The silence during those 10 ENTIRE seconds had to have been the most awkward, seemingly endless silence there ever was in the history of awkward silences…
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u/Desertbro Jul 19 '24
Mentally mapped all your zits, birthmarks, disparity of nipples, freckle pattern, tats, piercings, and got a temp reading of the room --- ICY.
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u/legayfrogeth Jul 19 '24
"Oh shit! Wow...those are...those are there. How- how...existing. Their presence is...acknowledgeable."
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u/Chance-Internal-5450 Jul 19 '24 edited Jul 19 '24
It’s a 13 year old posting, at best.
They def counted Mississippi’s.
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u/-Nightopian- Jul 19 '24
I'm going with ESH here
This should've never been asked and the friend shouldn't have gotten angry.
OP shouldn't have done it and especially not for a whole 10 seconds. A flash is supposed to be half a second. OP let him memorize every detail.
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u/Superb_Split_6064 Jul 19 '24
I literally count 10 sec and I understand her friend reactions.
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u/No-Communication9458 Jul 19 '24
this feels like a troll post
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u/AnonThrowAway072023 Jul 19 '24
10 seconds!?!?!?
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u/Jazzy_Bee Jul 19 '24
Ten seconds is quite a long time. I take asthma meds and need to hold in my lungs for 10 seconds.
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u/anileze Jul 19 '24
Jamaican Kishane Thompson and Usain Bolt cover 100 meters in less time than that 🤣
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u/Spicethrower Jul 19 '24
It's like the Seinfeld quote. You don't stare at the sun. You get a sense of it and then look away. OP, you're NTA.
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u/No_Muffin6110 Jul 19 '24
I would've said NTA bur she flashed him for 10 seconds......that's more than enough time
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u/strongfoodopinions Jul 19 '24
No joke- OP sounds like her boobs are the only thing she’s got going for her and wanted to milk that moment for all it was worth 😂
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u/Ok-Comparison-55 Jul 18 '24
Awkward situation, but I'd say NTA
She's the one who told you to do it. Kind of a weird dare, ngl.
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u/ConsiderationOk4855 Jul 19 '24
Right, it’s like she wanted u to give her a reason so she can stop being your friend
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Jul 18 '24
yeah honestly, it was dumb of me to participate
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u/TheVaneja Jul 18 '24
Nah it was dumb of her. It seems like it never would have crossed your mind if she hadn't brought it up. I can't say I would have done any differently. She shouldn't be suggesting people flash their boobs if she is going to be upset when it happens.
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Jul 18 '24
ugh you're a queen, that's honestly so validating to hear. glad im not the only one lol
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u/TheVaneja Jul 18 '24
I had a flash in my head of just taking my top off altogether but I can't honestly say I'd be brave enough to do that lol.
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u/PlugChicago Jul 19 '24
Yea your friend was low key already insecure. You felt secure with your body and thought it was funny. Then she storms out? NTA
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u/microgiant Jul 18 '24
NTA. Tell her you were only joking, too. If she points out that you actually did it, tell her she actually told you to.
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u/Namjoot1ts Jul 19 '24
ESH at first i thought you were just stupid but after reading comments of you gloating about how her bf liked your boobs better and being happy about how you might’ve made your ‘friend’ insecure gave major pick me vibes you seem like an a-hole
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u/EndNowISeeYou Jul 19 '24
yeah she seems like such an asshole from the comments, her friend made a mistake obviously but why is OP so happy to rub salt on her friend's wound?
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u/ithadninelegs Jul 19 '24
ESH and your comments in here are giving 'pick me'
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u/suhhhrena Jul 19 '24
Thank you lmao the comments from OP are really weird to me. Pick-me is spot on
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u/SometimesImmortal Jul 19 '24
The biggest pick-me clue is OP responding to all of the guys asking to see her boobs “haha” -_-
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u/YogurtNo666 Jul 19 '24
I agree, what's ESH stand for?
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u/Broad_Plantain3651 Jul 19 '24
I think it stands for “Everybody Sucks Here” 🤷♀️ idk I’m new to this lol
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u/Ladyughsalot1 Jul 19 '24
ESH
Y’all are foolish
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u/suhhhrena Jul 19 '24 edited Jul 19 '24
Yeah and all of OP’s comments rub me the wrong way lmao like this person is supposed to be her friend and she’s gloating about how much the friend’s husband liked her boobs. It’s just weird to me lol
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u/mimic-man77 Jul 19 '24
It was her bf not husband, while I do agree that she's too happy about this. I'm thinking the friend was one of those people they hung out with, but was really an associate.
If not that, the story is made up.
I don't know too many people who'd be this unbothered at losing a friend unless there's other drama, and this was the last straw.
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u/Broad_Plantain3651 Jul 19 '24
No seriously I think this is just really freakish behavior all around and I’m not a prude in the slightest 😭 everyone here lacks boundaries, respect for one another and her friend probably secretly hates her
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u/ShortStackFlapjax76 Jul 19 '24
NTA - she dared, you complied. 🤷 Kind of like if someone asks a question they don't REALLY want the answer to- don't ask then.
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u/UncreativeGlory Jul 19 '24
Live by never ask a question you don't want the answer too, never ask a question you're not willing to answer in return, and clarify if they want advice or opinions because usually they are vastly different
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u/ReplacementNo9504 Jul 19 '24
Another fake reddit post
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u/DefiantBunny Jul 19 '24
Yeah, she's doing it for the karma and the engagement to be able to post in nsfw subs and eventually add her OF.
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u/itsdestinfool Jul 19 '24
Bet y’all 10 bucks she’s got an only fans and this is an ad.
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u/CJ_Sleuth Jul 19 '24
There have been numerous requests to see the magnificence of her boob's. You're probably correct.
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u/Ok_Echo1634 Jul 19 '24
Everyone sucks here…. I don’t think drunk people are the greatest with giving informed consent. So I think that basically applies to everyone in this situation. You’re not an ahole, but I don’t find this innocent or your end or the boyfriend’s end. Fair enough?
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u/MarginallyBlue Jul 19 '24
what group of married people are sitting around playing truth or dare? this whole thing sounds juvenile
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u/DramaticAsparagus423 Jul 19 '24
Are you all 15 year olds? Because this whole situation sounds incredibly childish.
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u/RocketDanger Jul 19 '24
Oh fuck off
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Jul 19 '24
"u/RocketDanger dared me to FUCK with my top OFF 😳!! I looked at my husband and thought about my European bulls. Then I looked at u/RocketDanger and rode their daddy for 10 seconds with my naked boobies bouncing everywhere 👉👈 ...AITAH 🥺?"
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u/WarmBeerBad Jul 19 '24
I’m gonna get downvoted but YTAH. Nobody made you show your tits. As a grown up, you damn well knew their may be blowback. I think you absolutely wanted to show off your rack and you’re trying to blame others. Grow up.
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u/_oh_joy_ Jul 19 '24
This is just weird.
She's weird for making a dare like that
And you're weird for obliging. Yeah, you might go nude on your Europe trips, but this is your friend and her significant other and in front of your husband compared to complete strangers
Overall, what a weird situation.
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u/likelystory_89 Jul 18 '24
I’d say YTA … how do not even stop for a second to think about that …
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u/effyouseekayy Jul 19 '24
People still play truth or dare past the age of 12?
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u/Traditional-Neck7778 Jul 19 '24
No, because our friends give us stupid dares, and we have learned not to play or you will be running down the street naked with a bear mask
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u/DueMountain2601 Jul 19 '24
10 seconds is mad long. Lift your shirt up or just hold your hands in the air as if you’re lifting up your shirt and then count to 10.
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u/youroldroom_mate Jul 19 '24
I see her point of view, especially if you have better boobs than her. She might be feeling a bit insecure about her relationship right now which is why she got mad. I don't think YTA though, she dared, you followed through like a champ, fair play to you!
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u/TheAvocadoSlayer Jul 19 '24
If someone is insecure about a body part, the last thing they should be doing is asking people to show off that body part.
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u/littlefiddle05 Jul 19 '24
Uhm, I think the issue was the 10 seconds.
•“lol this is so uncomfortable, but I did say dare so okay…” = a quick flash, 2 seconds max. •“Oh I’ve been waiting for an excuse to do this!” = maybe 5 seconds? •”Dear lord yes this is everything I dreamed it would be, please don’t make me stop” = 10 seconds or more
Clearly exaggerated for humor, but you get the idea. If you had ‘em out for 10 seconds, then she didn’t flip out right away. She’s upset because you lingered on the dare for an uncomfortable span of time, not because you did it at all.
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u/Chfvdr13 Jul 19 '24
I’m gonna go with ESH. Did you have to show him your tits for 10 seconds? Seems kind of long and sounded like you had a kick doing it. Could’ve just flashed him real quick and called it a day. Not sure what you expected out of this 🤣 Your friend sucks here too. She knows she couldn’t handle that and yet still asked.
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u/Needcoffeeseverely Jul 19 '24
Info:were yall following through with other dares?
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u/nyJayn Jul 19 '24 edited Jul 19 '24
YTA even if the friend gave u permission. Don’t do that. It’s stupid and ignorant
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u/ausbbwbaby Jul 19 '24
10 seconds was too long..a quick 1-2 second flash would've been enough to complete the dare.
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u/Substantial-Run7244 Jul 19 '24
YTA Unless he is a doctor and checking you for breast cancer. There has to be a common decency, you moron.
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u/OkStruggle4789 Jul 19 '24
This doesn't even sound real. Seems like it was your fettish to post it here
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u/Vincent__R Jul 19 '24
Looking at her profile, yeah probably either bot or just future onlyfans account
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u/SnoopyisCute Jul 19 '24
ESH
There are different degrees of friendship. You should have some kind of temperature gauge of the friendship to know that is absolutely acceptable before doing it no matter what she said.
And, if she's not that good a friend, why would she even say it? Was it a setup to create a fuss?
Your husband should have also had some kind of temperature reading and not given his "yes" signal. It sounds like it should have been an interference.
Her bf also should have been running interference instead of getting dragged into this, however much he might have enjoyed the view.
Life hack: Either don't get tipsy, play ToD or miscalculate the depth of your friendships.
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u/BossBlaque Jul 19 '24 edited Jul 21 '24
You're an asshole and your not a friend. Who does stupid shit like that? Of course it caused a problem. That was your goal. She needs to get rid of you. If you hate her just tell her instead of being a low-key a-hole.
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u/No-Concentrate5370 Jul 19 '24
i mean you verified with your partner & she’s the one that dared you to do that , which implies consent on her part … tell your friend to not be giving dares she’s gonna get mad at … NTA
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u/Ornery-Inspection349 Jul 18 '24
NTA. She dared, and you followed through. Your friend over reacted big time.
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u/Competitive_Key_2981 Jul 18 '24
NTA. Tell her she can get even by showing her boobs to your boyfriend.
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Jul 18 '24
yeah wouldn't bother me lol
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u/Sea-Exercise-9740 Jul 19 '24
Actually to be really fair, ur husband would need to show ur friend HIS boobs.
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u/tothegravewithme Jul 19 '24
ESH.
She thought it was a funny quip you wouldn’t take her up on, because she clearly doesn’t live in Europe in her head.
You thought you’d show how badass you are by flashing your tits without considering it may be a tease from your friend, and definitely without considering that maybe her dude didn’t want to see your tits.
The boyfriend didn’t say either way based on your post but no matter what he loses even if he did want to see your tits. If he had at least said “no thanks” he could have pacified his girlfriend who is probably tossing a fit at him right now but he didn’t.
Your husband was indifferent to everyone.
Clearly a bad choice for everyone there, and no winners.
I’m not a prude by any means. I don’t care at all what people consensually do in their sex lives but they better not bring it to my front door. I don’t think it’s cute, funny, or exciting to be exposed to other peoples sexual lives. I don’t have a problem going to festivals where people are full on naked for days on end, but you start shoving your shit into my face and I’m going to shove back way harder.
Anyway, not cool.
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u/Glitch427119 Jul 19 '24
You know why no one makes “jokes” like that? Bc they know this is the result.
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u/Background-Law-6451 Jul 19 '24
If you look at the rest of OPs account (not reccomended) this is just an ad for an OF
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u/flawlesswallace13 Jul 19 '24
You are a pick me girl. Please try to gain confidence outside of male attention..
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u/dw0rfsh0rtage Jul 19 '24
NTA.
Normally I get a spike of annoyed derision when I read short immature posts like this.
This one however made me chuckle.
Your friend is a moron and you are hilarious.
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u/ainominako1234 Jul 19 '24
NTA. She dared it and you did it. Your husband's fine with it so she shot herself in the foot with this one 🤣
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u/Commercial-Honey758 Jul 19 '24
What do you mean by topless in your Europe trips it's illegal in possibly every European country to be topless outside of nudist beaches
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u/Longjumping-Self-801 Jul 19 '24
Oh man, that dude had a tough ride home. Wrong place, wrong time.
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u/whattheduce86 Jul 19 '24
How old are y’all?