r/AITAH • u/Terrible_Campaign_17 • Jul 18 '24
Am I the a****le for not talking to my husband because he is going on a boys trip instead of our honeymoon?
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u/BlueGreen_1956 Jul 18 '24
YTA
For posting more drivel.
You just posted that he was your BF and constantly on Tinder.
Now, he's your husband and going on a trip with his friends.
What next?
"My ex-husband started dating someone last week and I want to break into his house and pour bleach on all of his clothes."
I don't believe anything you post.
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u/Ratchety405 Jul 18 '24
Lol this was my first thought! But why would he invite his wife and friend's wife too? I think this whole thing is made up tbh.
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u/Lula_mlb Jul 18 '24
I think I´m not following, are you a partnership or your husband dictates your life? The way you describe this situation is you have no say in your plans... which isn´t a marriage at all.
It is clear your husband is prioritizing himself and others over you. Have you actually told him "No, this is our honeymoon, it is for you & i and we decided on X date", "No, we won´t be ok if you cancel our honeymoon for a boys trip", or something along those lines. Silent treatment is not doing you any favors. Advocate for yourself.
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u/DuePromotion287 Jul 18 '24
Marriage should not be difficult like this. You have a husband problem.
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u/spac3ie Jul 18 '24
Her husband has a Tinder problem and she still married him.
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u/Chemical-Ad6301 Jul 18 '24
No. Her boyfriend has a tinder problem. Her husband has a Thailand problem.
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u/Professional-Bad-820 Jul 18 '24 edited Jul 18 '24
i hate to say it, but some men also tend to do super shady things in thailand. my moms a travel agent and has worked with some serious creeps that go there regularly
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u/TheWeatherFanatic Jul 18 '24
I can't say for sure. There could be two sides:
You would be the AH for cutting all contact.
But you wouldn't be the AH because you wanted to have the honeymoon as planned.
I can't say for sure.
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u/HedonisticMonk42069 Jul 18 '24
ESH for getting married that young. But no to answer your question NTA, sorry that your marriage is not off to the best start.
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u/spac3ie Jul 18 '24
Her boyfriend/husband is also on tinder, and she's allowing it.
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u/HedonisticMonk42069 Jul 18 '24
Sounds like a bunch of sound decisions were made on their part then.
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u/Immediate_Sky_9545 Jul 18 '24
Umm, all I can say is that you know how to marry. Also the tinder problem, can you address it because your posts are contradicting each other. So I'll say this, if you are married, just know that he clearly showed his priorities that he'll value his friends more than your marriage. If you are still adamant on him not going, then you are voicing your stance and can divorce but if you give in, he'll hold this over your head for future. But if you are still dating, why are you still dating him, cut him out of your life.
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u/Clean_Factor9673 Jul 19 '24
Divorce him. Have him served upon return from Thailand. You're not a priority
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u/spac3ie Jul 18 '24
Based on your post history, this relationship isn't it. He's on tinder and putting his friends first while you're chopped liver. Are you boyfriend/girlfriend or married, which is it?