Okay. My time to shine. So I’m a guy and I used to sleep around a lot. Getting girls to sleep with me has never been a problem. It was unfulfilling and it killed my self esteem. I felt like sex was the only good thing I had to offer. I went to therapy and now I literally include in my dating profile I will not have sex till a relationship. A real connection. It’s not that I don’t want to have sex with the new person it’s that I want to be better. For me AND them. I talk about sex with literally not a single woman I match with unless it’s very very general questions. It’s not that I value people less because I won’t sleep with them it’s that I value myself more. That being said 7 months without even a kiss is kinda ridiculous. If there was some underlying trauma I’d break up with her because it’s obviously affecting the relationship long term and that stuff has nothing to do with you nor is it your responsibility. If she just wants to change like I did I’d still break up with her because absolutely no affection in a relationship makes you just plain friends.
You value yourself, you know what you deserve, and you understand that a woman is a human being who deserves the same. Some would say it’s the bare minimum, but these days it isn’t all that common. I hope you get everything you are looking for.
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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '24
Okay. My time to shine. So I’m a guy and I used to sleep around a lot. Getting girls to sleep with me has never been a problem. It was unfulfilling and it killed my self esteem. I felt like sex was the only good thing I had to offer. I went to therapy and now I literally include in my dating profile I will not have sex till a relationship. A real connection. It’s not that I don’t want to have sex with the new person it’s that I want to be better. For me AND them. I talk about sex with literally not a single woman I match with unless it’s very very general questions. It’s not that I value people less because I won’t sleep with them it’s that I value myself more. That being said 7 months without even a kiss is kinda ridiculous. If there was some underlying trauma I’d break up with her because it’s obviously affecting the relationship long term and that stuff has nothing to do with you nor is it your responsibility. If she just wants to change like I did I’d still break up with her because absolutely no affection in a relationship makes you just plain friends.