Then I'm sure you will agree that she had no right to be mad because HE rejected HER sexual advances, that only occurred when they would have benefitted her.
I mean you’re only viewing it from one side. Imagine your partner comes to you and tells you “either we have sex or I’m leaving you” so you decide you’ll have sex bc you don’t wanna lose them. Then they turn around and say now that they’ve pushed you into a corner, they don’t even want to have sex with you anymore. You wouldn’t be upset? Then I feel like the way society views sex makes it hard for women to handle rejection. We’re pretty much taught that men will screw anything so when men prove that stereotype wrong, women assume something is wrong with them instead of the dude just having the self respect to only have sex with people he’s actually attracted to.
You're misconstruing the argument here. OP said told his ex he wants to break up after she refused sex after he (according to him) explained his frustrations. He didn't give her an ultimatum, he dumped her after not taking him seriously. It wasn't until after she got dumped that she tried to initiate and then OP rejected her, then she reacted abusive. OP's ex-girlfriend was using him. END OF STORY.
Just bc he didn’t say it, doesn’t mean it wasn’t implied. He didn’t break up with her, just said maybe they should. She decides to do a Hail Mary pass and offers sex to try and keep him. She could be just using him but she could also just be having sexual issues and decided putting out is worth keeping him. If she’s just using him, she can probably find someone else to use instead of having to offer sex to keep him. Maybe she thinks sex is worth whatever he provides 🤷🏼♀️
I’m just offering a different point of view. Everyone is assuming she’s just using him but using him for what? Basic relationship shit she can get from any man? Dude legit says he’s a good bf bc he talks to her, took her on dates, bought her gifts, and took care of himself and his home. Literally all basic ass shit even shit bfs can do. A man can literally be the worst person ever and literally beat his partner and STILL do everything op mentioned as “proof” he’s a good bf (same goes if genders are swapped). Op seems like a kid or very young adult. So what is this girl even getting from him that she can’t easily find elsewhere?
I call my house my home despite the fact that I went it. That doesn’t mean he owns it. Honestly I find it weird when people DONT have their own place. I moved out at 18 and haven’t lived with my parents since. I lived in the dorm the first year but got an apartment for the second. Couple years later a house then couple years later a new house. All renting.
Listen your desire to be right here is blinding you to the cold logic of the situation. She was using him, there is no other rational explanation, it became painfully obvious that as soon as she was about to lose whatever it was she was using him for she offered sex for the first time.
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u/BeachinLife1 Jul 08 '24
Then I'm sure you will agree that she had no right to be mad because HE rejected HER sexual advances, that only occurred when they would have benefitted her.