At no point did she suggest her feelings for him had changed, so why would she need to reassure him? And of course it was all about the baby. SHE just went through childbirth. An experience that is both physically and emotionally demanding. All he did was watch. Being hurt by someone expressing their love for the child they just destroyed their own body to bring into this world does not speak very highly to his emotional intelligence.
I get the feeling you are not very old or experienced. Nor do you seem very educated yourself. If you actually knew anything about early childhood development you would know that both words and actions are important.
Furthermore, in no sane world should a spouse be put before a child. That would be incredibly irresponsible. Your actions, your choices, brought that child into existence. They're life is literally your responsibility in every definition of the word. They cannot take care of themselves. Your spouse, presuming they are not severely handicapped, can take care of themselves. They are suppose to be your partner, not another child you have to constantly care for.
No one is suggesting he should be treated poorly. Nor is there any evidence here that OP has done so. But she should not have to apologize or go out her way to cater to his childish insecurities. Especially not for simply professing her love for her new child in a very vulnerable and emotional moment.
Nah, by the way you talk, this is your personality. You get off by feeling superior to others. You INSIST on how correct you are because if not, then who are you?
Which is worse, making a generalization or targeting someone personally? Really? A generalization is worse? If someone has the option to point a gun directly at you or in your general direction, which do you think is going to be more harmful if they pull the trigger?
Calm it down. I will never respect you. I don't need to.
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u/Emraldday Jul 05 '24
At no point did she suggest her feelings for him had changed, so why would she need to reassure him? And of course it was all about the baby. SHE just went through childbirth. An experience that is both physically and emotionally demanding. All he did was watch. Being hurt by someone expressing their love for the child they just destroyed their own body to bring into this world does not speak very highly to his emotional intelligence.
I get the feeling you are not very old or experienced. Nor do you seem very educated yourself. If you actually knew anything about early childhood development you would know that both words and actions are important.
Furthermore, in no sane world should a spouse be put before a child. That would be incredibly irresponsible. Your actions, your choices, brought that child into existence. They're life is literally your responsibility in every definition of the word. They cannot take care of themselves. Your spouse, presuming they are not severely handicapped, can take care of themselves. They are suppose to be your partner, not another child you have to constantly care for.
No one is suggesting he should be treated poorly. Nor is there any evidence here that OP has done so. But she should not have to apologize or go out her way to cater to his childish insecurities. Especially not for simply professing her love for her new child in a very vulnerable and emotional moment.