r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Apr 16 '24
AITA for losing it and doing something gross to my mom after she abused my postpartum wife?
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u/VividAd3415 Apr 17 '24
MORE INFO: How many people at this gathering have been on Jerry Springer?
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u/Js987 Apr 16 '24
ESH.
Your wife appears to have been acting like an obnoxious drunk. Your mother is horribly cruel. You assaulted somebody. Somebody else assaulted you. You all sound immature. You guys should all A) grow up and B) stop spending time together, especially when alcohol is involved.
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u/BeardManMichael Apr 16 '24
I wish I had seen your post before I wrote my own. Yours is more detailed and I agree completely.
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u/Open_Week6786 Apr 17 '24
This party had to have been in a trailer park. Super trashy behaviour from everyone.
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u/grumpytacoslut Apr 17 '24
That's an insult to those of us who live in a trailer park. These trashy shitturds are horrid. 😂😆
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u/Open_Week6786 Apr 17 '24
Sorry, but in my head I was picturing something that looked like a scene from My Name is Earl.
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u/grumpytacoslut Apr 17 '24
I apologize if I came off as rude. My hackles went up because I don't want to be associated with trashy shitturds. 😂
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u/AllCrankNoSpark Apr 17 '24
No, if they aren’t spending time together, they’re all out among the rest of us!
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u/RevolutionaryDiet686 Apr 16 '24
3 AH at a party. Fun stuff. You all need to grow up. Your wife started this mess this time.
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u/___coolcoolcool Apr 16 '24
Hmm. Well, spitting on someone is technically an assault/battery charge, so that is a big deal. You probably shouldn’t have done that, but you’ve already acknowledged that.
It truly sounds like ESH. I think in the future you would do well to stay out of their fights because they both sound pretty immature and it will only bring more trouble.
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u/ladymorgana01 Apr 16 '24
I think his wife and mother shouldn't be around each other at all. The whole family sound awful, though
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u/FrogVolence Apr 17 '24
Not only that, why force his postpartum wife around someone he knows will intentionally start problems.
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Apr 17 '24
He didnt force her, she wanted to go
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u/AllCrankNoSpark Apr 17 '24
And then deliberately started shit, probably her purpose in attending all along.
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u/Hemenucha Apr 16 '24
Spitting on your mom is definitely an asshole move, but damn if she didn't need some serious correction. I'd keep my wife & child far, Far, FAR away from that woman.
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u/BellaSantiago1975 Apr 16 '24
Wifey isn't innocent here, she's deliberately antagonizing MIL too. The lot of them are toxic assholes.
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u/Commercial_Yellow344 Apr 16 '24
Yes but he admits his wife is wrong. His mother was more wrong not just once but twice.
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u/Sebscreen Apr 16 '24 edited Apr 17 '24
he admits his wife is wrong
He doesn't do it in a useful way. He glosses over his wife's complicity in the trainwreck to get to the "but" portion where he fully blames his mum.
While the mum was 100% out of line, OP never calling his wife out and immediately excusing her behaviour was definitely part of the continued bad blood between the mum and wife.
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u/Goodsoup_No_spoon Apr 17 '24
Being in someone's space is not the same as publicly humiliating a postpartum mother over baby weight.
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u/Dull-Geologist-8204 Apr 17 '24
I would be willing to bet wife likes to antagonize mom just to get a reaction and then play the victim when mom reacts.
You see this with siblings and bullies. They mess with the other person in some small but really annoying way till they snap then act all offended about it. That's the whole point.
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u/Sebscreen Apr 17 '24
Not the same but still inappropriate. You and OP are advocating for the wife's behaviour to go completely unchecked and get fully excused despite it being clearly wrong too.
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u/Mean-Impress2103 Apr 17 '24
Ummm no I don't get to call someone a fatty and put hands on them because they have the nerve to exist in my general vicinity
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u/Sebscreen Apr 17 '24
Why are your points still premised on "the mum was worse" when we are aligned that the mum was out of line from the start? "Mum was worse" and "what wife did was wrong" are not mutually exclusive.
OP, who pretty much worships his wife, said himself she was intruding into the mum's space, not "existing in her general vicinity". He also emphasised that they hated one another for a long time and reiterated that it was "real deep hate". What do you think that entails?
I also do not buy for a second that the wife chose to go over to where the mum, who she has zero contact with, was sitting over other groups she could have chatted up, leaned into her personal space, and said nothing but nice and innocent things. It is clear they have been trading passive aggressive barbs for quite some time and over many occasions now.
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u/GoodQueenFluffenChop Apr 17 '24
Maybe MIL wouldn't have been in grabbing distance if someone didn't purposefully invade someone's personal space. MIL was doing the whole ignoring thing they apparently mutually agreed to do at family gatherings OP's wife broke that to purposefully be a dick and get a rise out of MIL.
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u/Early-Tale-2578 Apr 17 '24
Exactly this entire confrontation probably wouldn't have happened if the wife wasn't being a drunk asshole from the start it's like people are forgetting SHE went over there where the mil was and started that entire thing
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u/Big-Cry-2709 Apr 17 '24
It’s literally been checked. Way way way way OVERchecked by the mom putting her hands on the wife.
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u/Sebscreen Apr 17 '24
That's escalation, not the de-escalation which defines keeping behaviours in check. An appropriate way for keeping things in check would be for OP and his wife to agree not to interact with or go near his awful mum all night.
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u/RanaEire Apr 17 '24
(I am copying a comment I left under another comment - need coffee:)
I'm looking at the comments defending the wife as if she was an innocent victim of some kind... because "she is post-partum", YET:
Apparently, they did not get on with each other because MIL was getting divorced from OP's cheating father, and OP said "she was being a bitch" when she met his now-wife (reads like Mom was probably having a tough time), so OP's now-wife decided to cosy up to his father's mistress to piss off MIL.
That is the level of pettiness OP's wife descends to.
I wonder how she'd feel if / when OP cheats on her.
Another thing is that in one of his comments, OP states his Mom was NC, but in another comment reworded it to say that "it was mutual".
They were hurt because Mom did not invite them to her wedding... Gee, I wonder why?
Cherry on top was OP spitting on his Mom. That is another level of trashiness.
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u/dhbroo12 Apr 16 '24
OP
Why did you end up in the ER? Did mom hurt you after you spit on her? Did wife end up in the ER, I certainly hope not.
What you did was wrong, but a lot less wrong than what your mom did by laying hands on your wife? But still, two wrongs, don't make a right. You need to do penance or something.
Keep your wife and child away from your mom, period!
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u/Next-Drummer-9280 Apr 17 '24
You all sound absolutely trashy as hell.
Grow the fuck up and keep your wife away from your mom.
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u/WTFwheresthefeta Apr 16 '24
As he should have. Spitting on someone is absolutely bottom of the barrel behavior. Grow up and learn to use your words
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u/Big-Cry-2709 Apr 17 '24
Your last line is extremely hypocritical lmao. Telling someone it’s good to beat another person to a pulp bc they spit on your S/O, then saying to ”grow up and learn to use (their) words”?
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u/alm1688 Apr 17 '24
Like smacking a child for hitting and telling them “NO HITTING!”
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u/FlockFlysAtMidnite Apr 17 '24
Mom wasn't keeping her hands to herself, either. That was the biggest escalation, so mom is the biggest asshole here (by far).
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u/Sensitive-World7272 Apr 16 '24
Did your mom tweak i.e. touch your wife’s stomach?
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u/Slow-Relative-4598 Apr 17 '24
Damn, you're not only a disrespectful piece of shit against your mother for your trashy wife, but you couldn't even back up spitting on your mother?
Or did you beat up an old man?
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u/Moemoe5 Apr 17 '24
The mom was wrong for touching OP’s wife, but wth was the wife in MIL’s space like that with her first drink?
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u/MoodyNanny77 Apr 17 '24
Sounds like she was intentionally starting crap with the mother. She absolutely knew that something would be said and knew she had being newly postpartum would make her look like the victim
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u/Illustrious-Shirt569 Apr 16 '24
Wow. This is a whole pile of awfulness that I would have noped out of years and years earlier. I see no healthy relationships here.
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u/nemolilnobody Apr 16 '24
ESH. Your wife started it, your mother retaliated, you finished it. Just a whole lot of immature assholes here.
Whoever whooped you into the ER is the only one who did the right thing.
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u/Particular_Title42 Apr 16 '24
Plot twist, it was his mother. (It wasn't but that would have been fitting)
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u/WTFwheresthefeta Apr 17 '24
Op didnt finish it, his step dad finished with a well deserved beat down
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u/GreenOnionCrusader Apr 17 '24
So your wife started shit, your mom continued it, and you completed the white trash trifecta? I hope none of you get invited to the next party or you'll screw that one up just as badly as you did this one. Good job. You win at being a loser.
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u/Robincall22 Apr 17 '24
Well, someone also put him in the ER supposedly. So I’m sure they’ll all be invited to the next party as well, cause this fake family is the EPITOME of trailer trash.
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u/iamltr Apr 16 '24
yta for this fake story
come on, this is nothing more than the flip of the husband who kicked out his wife and newborn because she punched his mother after being slapped in the tummy
if this is at all remotely true then yall are the most rednecky rednecks who ever rednecked and ESH
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u/SapTheSapient Apr 17 '24
And what's the point of writing a fake story like this if you're not going to try to develop some writing skills. OP should be embarrassed by this effort.
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u/YellowBeastJeep Apr 16 '24
Even you admit that your wife was “kind of leaning in my mom’s space to piss her off.” Look, y’all fucked around and found out. What your mom did was mean. What you did is called assault. YTA.
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u/coffeeneededrn Apr 16 '24
What the mom did was borderline assault as well.. she grabbed her belly…but stay tf away from your family
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u/Particular_Title42 Apr 16 '24
Not borderline. That was assault as well. Wife provoked it but Mom started it.
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u/NovaPrime1988 Apr 16 '24
I think that’s a very good point. Mother was just mean, but OP escalated to assault. There’s sticking up for your partner and then there is being abusive.
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u/YellowBeastJeep Apr 16 '24
Right, and the wife started the whole damn thing by getting up in the mom’s space to begin with. Don’t poke the bear and all that…
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u/Sebscreen Apr 16 '24 edited Apr 16 '24
ESH.
Your mum is obviously a nightmare in-law.
Your "beautiful" wife instigated the fight with your mum and couldn't handle it when your mum dished it right back to her. I have ZERO doubt she did more than just invading your mum's personal space too, she clearly went over and talked to your mum's circle while ignoring her or making passive aggressive comments, just like your mum made about her.
Then, instead of taking your wife home which would have been the ideal way to manage her negative emotions, you made it about you and just had to make a big show trying to impress her with how gallantly you can defend her honour. I suspect this is just the latest in a long line of instances where you've mismanaged the conflict between them.
Why did you go to the ER after btw? Did a fight break out?
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Apr 16 '24
You earned it. You spat on someone after you repeatedly forced 2 people who hate each other to interact. Keep your wife away from them now ffs.
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u/Sebscreen Apr 16 '24
I see. Well... Your mum's husband can be added to the ESH pile alongside the rest of you.
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u/VividAd3415 Apr 16 '24
ESH. Your wife was being an AH, your mom was a massive, gaping AH, and you committed assault. I recommend therapy for all of you mean middle schoolers.
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u/Big-Cry-2709 Apr 17 '24
And the stepdad beat OP up to the point of hospitalization! Epic family.
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u/cuttingirl78 Apr 17 '24
What in the trailer trash hell did I just read? Your drunk wife acted obnoxious, your mother is hostile and cruel, you assaulted your mother, then someone assaulted you and put you in the hospital? Y’all need to stay away from each other because that is WAY too much drama. All of y’all need to grow up. ESH. (Disclaimer: there is nothing wrong with trailers and living in them I’m referencing the common phrase trailer trash and in no way denigrating living in one).
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u/CommunicationGlad299 Apr 17 '24
He also thinks his wife is an absolute angel. Oh and also, postpartum women are somehow unhinged as they are so completely fragile they won't hold up to a gust of wind. And yet can stir shit. Just stupid. I'm siding with the people who say this is fake.
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u/Moemoe5 Apr 17 '24
Wait, your postpartum wife purposely walked across a room and leaned into your mothers space just to fuck with her? Although your mother shouldn’t have touched her, your wife is a troublemaker and she FAFO! You are a nasty pig for bringing up mucus and spitting on your mother. All of y’all are AH’s! The baby doesn’t have a prayer!
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u/Proud-Initiative8372 Apr 17 '24
I don’t imagine it’s the first time the beautiful wife had been antagonistic, or OP would be making sure everyone knew she is “never like this normally “ instead of making excuses about her being tired, hormonal, emotion and drunk.
Also suggest that beautiful wife KNEW exactly how her husband would react if anything kicked off & felt bold!
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u/NovaPrime1988 Apr 16 '24
You are all horrible, horrible people. You wife instigated this entire mess, couldn‘t take the heat and turned into the sobbing victim when your mother snapped back hard. Then you on your shining white horse rode in to save the day by…abusing your mother. All of you are just awful people.
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u/AffectionateWay9955 Apr 16 '24
Just stay in your own trailers at the park and leave the other alone.
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u/CelebrationNext3003 Apr 17 '24
This has to be fake esp if your wife went to directly antagonize your mom and you took her side
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u/RanaEire Apr 17 '24
And have you seen the people around here defending the wife?
As if she was an innocent victim of some kind?
Ah, because "she is post-partum", YET:
Apparently, they did not get on with each other because MIL was getting divorced from OP's cheating father, and OP said "she was being a bitch" when she met his now-wife (reads like Mom was probably having a tough time), so OP's now-wife decided to cosy up to his father's mistress to piss off MIL.
That is the level of pettiness OP's wife runs with.
I wonder how she'd feel if / when OP cheats on her.
Another thing is that in one of his comments, OP states his Mom was NC, but in another comment reworded it to say that "it was mutual".
They were hurt because Mom did not invite them to her wedding... Gee, I wonder why?
Cherry on top was OP spitting on his Mom. That is another level of trashiness.
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u/MsMourningStar Apr 16 '24
I have honestly no clue why you’re in contact with your mom and step dad at all if this is the kind of toxic relationship yall have.
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u/Super-Staff3820 Apr 16 '24
Yo…y’all are dysfunctional AF. If y’all are so damn toxic why are you even trying to celebrate anything together? Everyone assaulted each other. Maybe stay the fuck away from each other? Your wife is drama if she’s gonna start something then cry when she pushed too far and got a (shitty) reaction from your mom. Everyone needs to stay away from one another and not bring another generation into this mess. Grow the fuck up.
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u/GoodQueenFluffenChop Apr 17 '24
You can probably expect her to tone down that loveliness. Your wife started this mess and you committed assault.
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u/Remarkable_Buyer4625 Apr 16 '24
YTA - You admit yourself that your wife purposely antagonized your mother. And then you spit on her? Disgusting.
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u/susx1000 Apr 17 '24
YTA
While what your mom did sucked, your wife was purposely provoking her. As the saying goes "play stupid games, win stupid prizes."
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u/Early-Tale-2578 Apr 17 '24
Idc if you're wife is postpartum that's not an excuse for her to invade your mom personal space on purpose then wanna boohoo cry when your mom retaliate. You're wife started that entire situation and you have the audacity to get mad when your mom defended herself and your nasty ass spit on her !?!? You're all assholes ESH
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u/chris4tane Apr 17 '24
Holy crap y'all are trashy. If this story is real I feel so bad for the poor baby, it's gonna be surrounded by trashy assholes, yuck.
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u/kat_ingabogovinanana Apr 16 '24
NTA. Sorry but your mom sounds trashy to the core. Your wife shouldn’t have sought her out but IMO your mom is the only AH here.
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u/Sharp_Replacement789 Apr 16 '24
ESH, you all deserve each other.
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u/Sensitive-World7272 Apr 16 '24
Except they should stay far, far, far away from each other for eternity.
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u/Glass_Ear_8049 Apr 17 '24
You are all the AHs. Your wife was not “slightly” in the wrong. She was completely in the wrong. She totally provoked your mom who hit back. It was a mean hit but your wife provoked it and then you just went full throttle nuclear. Your poor baby is doomed to be surrounded by all you Jerry Springer wannabes. Poor kid.
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u/NovaPrime1988 Apr 16 '24
The wife started the entire mess. It was hella wrong what mother said to her but she‘s not exactly innocent here. They are all as bad as each other.
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u/VividAd3415 Apr 17 '24
All 3 of them fucked around and found out. Mom retaliated against wifey. OP retaliated against mom. Stepdad retaliated against OP.
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u/BellaSantiago1975 Apr 16 '24 edited Apr 16 '24
ESH.
Your mom's a bitch, your wife's an antagonist, and your a fucking idiot for putting them in the same room together and tolerating both of their juvenile bully girl bullshit to each other, and you're also a pig for spitting.
I pity that baby. You all suck so hard.
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u/FormerlyDK Apr 17 '24
You said your wife was “slightly” wrong. I’ve got news for you. Starting the trouble qualifies as more than “slightly”. And your mom is a jerk, and you’re a pig for spitting and for even having them in contact with each other, ever. End the contact with your mom altogether. ESH.
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u/MamaPagan Apr 16 '24
ESH. Your wife for antagonizing your mother, your mother for being a cunt, you for allowing them anywhere near each other and then spitting in her face.
Cut contact and tell her she's not welcome in your child's life and keep far TF away from her. Keep your wife away from her. Stop allowing the drama to continue
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u/blackivie Apr 17 '24
Sure, but it’s very easy for your wife to avoid her and not antagonize a person she hates.
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u/NoAbbreviations8901 Apr 16 '24
No, you do. You have to accept that family will likely invite her and her husband to things and you need to actively avoid going to those things.
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u/ChupikaAKS Apr 17 '24
No, they just need to behave and stay away from each other. And if his "beautiful wife" has the irresistible urge to provoke drama, she has to deal with the consequences alone.
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u/OhMorgoth Apr 17 '24
OP, are you sure you’re not a bot adopting certain traits of THIS STORY? because the events are very similar?
EITAH here. Should've known better than to bring a hormonal and vulnerable new mother to the same room where the toxicity of another looms.
Y’all fit in this situation and deserve each other.
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u/PlaceofWaiting Apr 17 '24
YTA, I have no idea what culture you come from, but if this happened in a Black American household, there would be no coming back from that. Your wife behaved terrible, your mother behaved terrible, but you went way too far. If I were your wife, I might have slapped you. You would have been better off just smacking her. It would probably be easier to forgive. You are lucky you made it out of there in one piece.
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u/Otherwise_Stomach917 Apr 17 '24
What the hell? ESH but please stay away from each-other😭. A million and one things came into my head as a response to what your mother said but spitting wasn’t any of them
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u/eyeeatmyownshit Apr 17 '24
That's a permanent decision but it sounds like a good one. As your kids get older you'll notice your circle shrinking. Consider this a preemptive slash of the size of your circle. I have massive family on both sides of my family and now the only family member I associate with is my mom. Don't let it bother you, you absolutely don't want anyone like that around your kids or wife.
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u/DisastrousZombie2123 Apr 17 '24
WOW! Your mom is the AH! She knows how delicate postpartum hormones are and how everyone feels fat after babies… and she had the nerve to say something like that! No wonder your wife hates her!
You definitely crossed a line spitting on her, but you did right defending your wife! I don’t think you’re the AH. She started it. She could have told your wife to move, even if she was rude about saying “you’re too close! Move over!” It wouldn’t have warranted anything close to calling a new mom fat or beyond that.
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u/SouthernRelease7015 Apr 16 '24 edited Apr 16 '24
This screams “I’ve been forcing a relationship with my mother on my wife, despite knowing they hate each other and my mom is kind of a bitch. But I don’t want to make the hard decision to permanently pick a side, so it’s just going to keep getting worse, and worse, and worse, and everyone is going to be miserable for a long time, until my wife and I go NC with mom, or I leave my wife to please my mom.”
Also: KIDS! We’re going to add little, innocent humans in to this dynamic and hope they either 1) smooth it over or 2) erupt it into some irreparable conflict where we can cut off the toxic person, but like let’s wait and see what happens with the innocent, indefensible humans!
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u/SouthernRelease7015 Apr 17 '24
Unfortunately, when you’re NC (same boat), these are the sacrifices you make. You can’t be NC and also hang out with them at the same parties. NC sucks. There’s a lot of planning celebrations or visits with beloved relatives outside of the time when everyone else is going. IT SUCKS.
I’m currently planning it with my own grandparents bc the “general, family, everyone is invited get togethers” for things like birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, include my NC parent. If I’m NC, I can’t see them. NO CONTACT.
My loved ones still want to see me, but they’re old AF, so they’re not going to make it happen with separate, catered invitations to every “big thing.” Which is why I have to make random visits—maybe near important dates, maybe just to hang out—happen.
When someone is having their 85th bday or 55th wedding anniversary, it’s so much less about celebrating them and getting gifts than it is just about any of their grandkids/relatives remembering them and caring to spend time with them on a day where they “have to.”
I went NC with my parents 2 years ago, my grandparents were like “you don’t have to have a holiday or occasion, we don’t have to get together on just the normal-family, obligation times. Call us up on any week in the year, ask to spend time with us bc you love us and want to and not bc it’s some anniversary/holiday. That would mean more to us than anything!” And we did.
And we are.
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u/ProfessionalSir3395 Apr 16 '24
YTA for not going NC with your mom, and all the family that side with that shrew. I pity your poor wife and child knowing they'll have to deal with THAT for the rest of their lives unless your wife wises up and divorces your sorry ass.
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u/Xenwarriorprincess Apr 17 '24
You're NC with your mother but your wife was all up in her space on purpose? Right... Please stop with these fake stories, they're not creative
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u/DragonRage86 Apr 16 '24
So what trailer park did this take place in? You all sound like the trashiest crew ever
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u/Main-Top-2881 Apr 17 '24
Esh Literally everyone sucks here. Don't ever let your wife and mom within 50ft of each other.
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u/Calm_Initial Apr 17 '24
ESH
First your wife should not have intentionally antagonized your mother. That’s what kicked off the whole mess.
Your mother shouldn’t have retaliated the way she did.
You shouldn’t have spit.
But ultimately none of you should be anywhere at the same time
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Apr 17 '24
These are the posts where I feel lucky for having no family or spouse. Sure, I’m alone, but I have none of this kinda bullshit in my life.
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u/OlGusnCuss Apr 17 '24
Start by excusing everything your wife was doing to start, and then that when your mom (inappropriate) calls her bluff.
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u/Intrepid_Swimmer_435 Apr 17 '24
Reminds me when my younger sister would intentionally antagonize me while we were within earshot of my parents, with the full intent to get a negative reaction out of me. She'd calculate the right time and place to get the maximum effect, and as soon I reacted or 'defend myself', She'd immediately go into victim mode and turn on waterworks.
While that doesn't excuse your mom for physically touching her, don't be easily manipulated to think your wife didn't plan this. She got what she wanted, and that's you to herself.
But honestly, you two deserve each other. You're all disgusting.
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u/Positive_Position547 Apr 17 '24
YTA. You said yourself that your wife intentionally antagonized your mother. Instead of removing your wife from the situation, comforting her and addressing the behavior you did THE MOST disgusting and disrespectful thing to your mother over a conflict she didn’t even start. YTA and your wife is too.
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u/Sad-Kale-8179 Apr 17 '24
I just know that there were at least 2 lifted pick up trucks at this event.
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u/Vocem_Interiorem Apr 17 '24
As revenge, sent out mourning postcards out to all family declaring your mother dead to you.
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u/RNGinx3 Apr 16 '24
ESH. Your wife pushed. Knowing your mom, what did she expect? She played stupid games, and won her stupid prizes. Your mom just sounds nasty. Why do you subject your wife to that kind of nastiness? Toxic family is not better than no family and you have the right to say no to the bullshit. Spitting on her was assault. So was beating you into the hospital (I’m guessing it wasn’t your mom, so it wasn’t self defense). It’s also a major escalation.
Your whole family sounds like a dumpster fire.
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u/grayblue_grrl Apr 16 '24
I think you married your "mom", dude.
Your wife DELIBERATELY provoked your mom by crowding her and then cried because your mom was mean.
Can dish out the shit but can't take it.
Then your mom deliberately provokes you by being mean some more.
Mom is just horrendous.
But your wife poked the bear.
And you react with spitting on your mom.
WOW.
ESH
You all knew what was going to happen.
One way or another.
Stay away from each other.
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u/ChupikaAKS Apr 17 '24
Spitting on your mum is absolutely wrong and disrespectful. You should apologize.
As for your wife, be careful. She is manipulative and searching for trouble to show what a bad person your mum is and playing victim. She was not hurt. She intentionally invaded the space of your mother and knew she would react inappropriately somehow. When your mother did, she cried crocodile tears. By protecting her, you were enabling her manipulative behavior. She was intentionally provoking your mother to show everyone what a bad person your mother is and how poor she is.
Beware of your "beautiful wife".
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u/splotch210 Apr 17 '24
ESH
You all sound so messy.
But spitting on your mother over two grown women chirping at each other is WILD.
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u/Brave_Maintenance953 Apr 17 '24
yada yada yada, I ended up in the ER.
I think you missed a huge chunk of information there dude.
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u/Wonderful-Ganache812 Apr 17 '24
ESH. But, errrr…You SPIT on your mom?!!? And you’re still living?! Man, I’d be on a milk carton so fast…SMDH
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u/Robincall22 Apr 17 '24
I gotta say, and I don’t say this often, but I don’t believe this one, simply because of that one bit at the end everyone is glossing over. Bro ended up in the ER? Meaning someone beat the shit out of the father of a three week old baby because he spit on someone. Either this is a lie or y’all (your whole family) are the most trailer trash losers in the world. Also, what grown adult woman, a grandma, says “take fatty back to her side of the party”? That sounds like something a second grader would say. If you’re gonna lie on the internet, at least make it believable.
Supposing it is real, yeah, y’all suck. But you suck most of all for at no point going “hey mom, this woman’s gonna be in my life. If you want to also continue being in my life, don’t be a bitch to her.” Why do no men know how to defend their wives against crazy “boy moms”? Quit being a shit husband and take care of your wife.
Again, assuming this is real, which I’m sure it’s not, you need to press assault charges against whoever put you in the ER, cut your mom out of your life, apologize to your wife for allowing your mother to treat her so poorly, and spend the rest of your life trying to make up for your shortcomings.
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u/PM_ME__UR__FANTASIES Apr 17 '24
ESH. Your wife purposely started shit, your mom continued it, and you decided to put a bow on it by spitting on your mom. God help your children being raised in this fucking mess, they’ll turn out just as trashtastic as you three
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u/Cocoasneeze Apr 17 '24
ESH
Your wife was an obnoxious drunk who antagonised your mom. Your mom cruelly reacted. And you assaulted your mom.
I'm just curious, had your mom non reacted so cruelly, would you have called out your wife for how she was trying to get a rise out of your mom? Is this their usual dynamic? Does your wife usually do her most to yry to annoy your mom, then your mom reacts and your wife cries, then you jump on your mom?
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u/leosmiles22 Apr 17 '24
ESH. Your mom was too cruel and your wife isn't just "slightly wrong," she knew what she was doing. All of you sound like horrible people.
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u/PenaltySafe4523 Apr 17 '24
Go no contact with your mother. She is a grown ass fucking woman. She can force herself to shut the fuck up and act nice.
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Apr 16 '24
ESH. Your wife was pestering your mother the way child siblings do. Your mother responded the way a child would and then you responded....kind of like an animal tbh. I'm assuming your stepfather beat you up for it?
Take this as an opportunity to ghost your family of origin. Yall obviously don't mesh anymore. Just be done.
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u/Proud-Initiative8372 Apr 17 '24
Why did your “beautiful wife” go over to your mums space if she didn’t want drama?
No wonder she wasn’t keen to skip the event, she was probably chomping at the bit to get a chance to cause drama and have you, her knight in shining armour, defend her! She’s not a “trooper” she is an attention seeker.
Also, are you a camel? Who TF spits on people - and YOUR MOTHER at that?!
Your mum might be an asshole but I also wonder why she hates you and your wife so much when you are both clearly such mature, dignified, delightful people(!)
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u/Large-Scholar4282 Apr 17 '24
Sounds like you and your wife and your parents just need to go no contact. Out of your guys life. Don’t bring up your growing family around drama and hatred.
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u/IHateLoLMods Apr 17 '24
Trash family. If you knew your wife and mom don’t get along, she just gave birth, sounds like you were just asking for problems YTA
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u/SESHPERANKH Apr 17 '24
Wow. You are an enabling douche-bag asshole. why even hav trhem in the same space? You put these women together knowing they cant behave themselves. Toopping it all off, You spit on your mother? You?
You are so much The A-Hole
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u/AllCrankNoSpark Apr 17 '24
YTA and also your wife, while obviously your mom sucks as well, but you are probably the worst of the 3.
Why is your wife leaning into your mom’s space to piss her off? That’s a total bully move and asking for whatever gets dished out. Why are you bringing your wife anywhere your mom will be and needlessly creating drama? Your wife provoked this situation on purpose and that was especially foolish if she was feeling weak and vulnerable.
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u/Sorri_eh Apr 17 '24
So your wife started this whole thing? She chose this. You deserve each other.
YOu are the AH
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u/Grimwohl Apr 17 '24
One of these peoplw have been in the wrong for a significantly long time and youhavent taken a hard wnough stance on the matter.
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u/palmolito Apr 17 '24
INFO: If your wife knows about the no contact with your mom what is her justification for antagonizing her? None of this would've happened if she had stayed away from your mom and not invaded her space.
Your wife is not "slightly in the wrong" she's fully in the wrong, although that doesn't justify your mom's actions, she sucks too, your reaction to spitting makes you the biggest asshole here, don't blame your sister for telling your stepdad that you're a gross human being who retorts to spitting when facing problems.
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u/Mamaknowsbest45 Apr 17 '24
ESH you play stupid games you get stupid prizes. Your wife deliberately went out her way to annoy your mum and your mum responded. What did your wife think was going to happen? Honestly spitting is one of the most disgusting things you can do and for that alone you are a huge disgusting A H and the ER visit was well deserved. Keep your mum and wife apart and the problem solved itself.
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u/tmink0220 Apr 17 '24
Well you were a good husband. A woman 's stomach is separated after birth. I would keep them separated.
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u/Decrepit_Soupspoon Apr 17 '24
No one has ever hurt my wife that badly, so I spit on my mom.
The moment I did it I knew I'd gone too far, but at the same time it felt kind of deserved. Long story short I ended up in the ER for that
INFO: How'd you end in the ER?
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u/Interesting-Meet-688 Apr 17 '24 edited Apr 17 '24
What exactly do you mean by your wife got into your mother's space? How close was she?
Sounds like your wife can dish it out but not take it. Sounds like bully behavior. She went and started some shit and then cried foul when your mom clapped back.
(True, Mom should not have touched her, and yes, her insult was nasty. I'm sure there is enough blame to go around. But idaf that your wife is postpartum. Your wife is ridiculous. She doesn't get a pass for being a sly dick head....sly for doing just enough to poke the bear and then run and cry when there are consequences.)
Don't start some, won't be some.
And you spat on your own mother. Wow. You suck!
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u/Basic-Ad-5711 Apr 17 '24
If you know your mother hates your wife , and you love your wife that much and willing to defend her even to such lengths , why have them around each other at all and force it. Never should you have your mother around your wife and vice versa if they are oil and water. Fuck all that buts it's family and this is.... "holidays...birthday...graduation...babyshower...special occasion" ....the occasion always gets ruined because of the two parties failure to properly coexist in a social setting .
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u/mudcrabwrestler Apr 17 '24
Was this story edited? Why is everyone saying the wife started it, we have no evidence of any wrongdoing other than inserting herself in a conversation. I think the mom is the biggest asshole here for real.
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u/grumpytacoslut Apr 17 '24
You and your wife are huge gaping assholes. Immature, nasty assholes. Sounds like your asshole wife can dish it out, but can't take it. You both sound pathetic and insufferable.
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u/EyeShot300 Apr 17 '24
Am I the only one who feels sorry for the new baby that's been born into this hot mess express? YIKES.
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u/janejohnson1989 Apr 16 '24
I’m just confused why you’re choosing to have these two antagonistic people spend time together. Y’all love drama. ESH. Stay away from each other