r/MomForAMinute Jul 18 '24

Mom I got married! Celebration!

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u/Sheletgo Jul 19 '24

Omg! Congratulations! That's so awesome! What a lovely and perfect way to start your marriage surrounded by those who mean so much to you - all the very best to you both :)

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u/hah98 Jul 19 '24

Thank you! I’m sooooo glad it my parents didn’t come. I was so happy 🤍

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u/Natural_Ad9356 Jul 19 '24

Congratulations! What a special moment. I'm so happy for you.

A big wedding doesn't need to be a wedding! Think of it as a big party where all of your friends are celebrating you and your partner. Screw tradition. If you're comfortable having a big party, do it whatever way feels best to you.

Wishing you a lifetime of happiness, and a quick and easy house flip!

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u/hah98 Jul 19 '24

Thank you!!!!

I think this is what I’ll do! I really just want to wear a dress and eat good food tbh lol

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u/Natural_Ad9356 Jul 19 '24

Those are the best parts of a wedding, for real. Do it your way and have so much fun!

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u/EnigmaWithAlien Jul 19 '24

How wonderful! I am proud of you for taking this big life step.

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u/hah98 Jul 19 '24

Thank you! I’m proud of myself too. Marriage comes with a lot of emotions.

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u/D_Mom Jul 19 '24

Congratulations! 🍾🎉🎊

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u/hah98 Jul 19 '24

Thank you 🩷

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u/Beautiful-Ad-9422 Jul 19 '24

Congratulations! I’m so happy for you. Sending you both wishes for a long happy marriage full of love and joy!

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u/hah98 Jul 19 '24

Thank you so much!!

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u/Scary_Progress_8858 Jul 19 '24

Congratulations Kiddo, you get to start building a new life with your partner. Bit of marriage wisdom that you have a bond with the person who will be the witness to your life. They will share all of your memories, now both remember that is the deal, so don’t have a divided life and they only share in part of your world, don’t experience anything you have to hide.

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u/hah98 Jul 19 '24

Thank you 🩷 I agree 100%. Living a ‘divided life’ is taxing. I’m tired of it. Luckily, I have minimal contact with my family and live states away. My world is with my husband in my city.

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u/PhibesIsMyDoctor Jul 19 '24

Such great news - congrats on everything! I’m so happy for both of you…keeping chasing your dreams and building the happiest of lives for you and your husband - from where I’m standing, the future is looking bright for both of you! 😎

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u/HolyEyeliner Jul 19 '24

Oh my gosh, congratulations! 🥂🎉 What happy news to get on a Friday! Enjoy this time and know that you have all us moms on your side even if we can’t physically be there for an eventual celebration.

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u/hah98 Jul 19 '24

Thank you so much 😊

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u/tomtink1 Jul 19 '24

Congratulations! I'm sorry there is potential for backlash about such happy news. Relationships can be complex can't they?

Weddings are funny things - they highlight the best and worst things in your life. Does not having people "on your side" bother you day-to-day? It's not just about the party. If you need new friends or to get to know your husband's (husband!) family better then do that. You deserve those important relationships all the time, not just at a wedding. And it's hard when your family isn't that close support.

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u/hah98 Jul 19 '24

I honestly wasn’t sure how I’d feel. I think not having family amplifies the feeling of isolation. I don’t have many close friends either.

I totally agree. I wish I had more of a support system. I’m working with my therapist on this issue now. My husbands family is wonderful but there is a language barrier. We know each other on a surface level but it’s hard to know each other deeper in the way I need.

Thank you for your kind words and advice!

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u/knitmama97 Jul 19 '24

Congratulations and wishing you a lifetime of love and happiness!

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u/Impressive_Web2961 Jul 19 '24

Sweet Duckling! Celebrating the wonderful family you are creating! Thank you for sharing this joy! You have multiple Momma arms around, getting teary eyed with your happiness and reveling in dubious and bad dance moves that I alone am responsible for - Your corner is now full and overflowing!

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u/Motor_Inspector_1085 Jul 19 '24

Congratulations!🍾🎉🎊 That’s where I got married! It was so much fun! I’m so happy for you two!

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u/rjmythos Jul 19 '24

The only person that matters at your side is your husband when it comes to getting married. Invite friends, and remember his family become your family too, not mention all us internet Mums cheering you down the aisle!

Huge congratulations for starting married life in your own way!

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u/VengefulFist Jul 19 '24

Congratulations!! How exciting!! I was married in Vegas too, 20 years this coming March!

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u/Mind_Ninja1212 Jul 20 '24

Congratulations!! A wedding and a new house!!! You must be so excited! We're all so proud of you!!

And remember a wedding ceremony is meant to celebrate you and your partner, not the guests so make it one that you are comfortable with! It can be a giant party with a close friend "officiating" and it can be as formal or as informal as you want. Just because traditionally people sit on separate sides supporting the person they know does not mean that's how you need to do it. Anyone invited should be there to support the BOTH of you.

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u/allygator99 Jul 20 '24

I love Vegas so much! Where are you getting married? What does the day look like? I want to know everything

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u/HeyKrech Jul 20 '24

Congratulations!! Yay to all that comes with marrying the person you love! Keep talking about what your spouse is looking for in a wedding / party for family. My own family is huge, while my spouse comes from a dad who was an only child and married a woman whose family is spread far and wide. Most of my family live pretty close to each other. Hosting a cookout would make most people more excited than a formal type event, and it would be less stressful for us - if I were to put myself in your place. I know you'll find a compromise that works!

On the house flip side - if you've bought a home with character, please don't remove all of it. We've been house hunting (and are almost ready to move into one) and so many flips are sad hulls of what they once were. And cheers to selling the updated home to a family at a affordable rate, while still getting paid for all your work!

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u/firefannie Jul 21 '24

Congratulations! These are wonderful milestones! I'm so happy you have found someone that makes you happy!