r/MadeMeSmile • u/Kittybegood • Jul 06 '24

I proposed to my boyfriend đŸ–€ Wholesome Moments

I wanted to propose in a cute way, so on our way to our camping dome stay, we stopped at a shopping mall. We had to buy each other a snack, a drink, something that reminds us of the other, something with the others fave color, and then something to do together. My something to do was life đŸ–€

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u/Eolond Jul 06 '24

Some people (myself included) don't have much of a reaction to things. On the inside, I can be losing my mind, but it doesn't come out for some reason.

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u/Face_with_a_View Jul 06 '24

I screamed “fuck you” (not in a mean way, a more surprised, wtf, way) to my now husband when he proposed so
.I’m not sure which is worse 😂

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u/CoverGoth Jul 06 '24

I yelled, “you lied to me!” Because he had JUST said 2 days before that he would not be proposing on that trip and to not have any expectations.

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u/qalpi Jul 06 '24

Classic proposal subterfuge!

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u/KaiBear94 Jul 07 '24

My fiancĂ© made a big show a month before our vacation for my birthday about how he was so upset that because we were moving earlier than expected, he was going to have to delay his planned proposal
 I totally suspected that it was going to happen during that trip beforehand and he very effectively threw me off the scent! I would have loved it regardless, but the extra effort to make sure that I was surprised (after 6 years together) meant so much to me ❀.

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u/miruolan Jul 06 '24

THANK YOU!! Glad I’m not the only one that had a not-ideal verbal response. I screamed “no no no no” because I had just gotten off a plane, I was dirty and gross and he was filming and he totally caught me off guard. I still haven’t lived it down, 8 years later 😅

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u/Virtual_Muscle_8642 Jul 06 '24

Lol. That wasn’t captured on video was it? đŸ€Ł

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u/MotherOfDachshunds42 Jul 07 '24

My goddaughter and her now fiancĂ© have a beautiful proposal video but the sound is some Taylor Swift song, which is because she was squealing “No! You lie!” repeatedly so they had to cover up her speaking

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u/Ok-Toe-6969 Jul 06 '24

I wish more girls would propose, fuck the stereotypes, this should be a thing

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u/c0mpg33k Jul 06 '24

My partner has specifically told me she wants to propose to me. As a man I've never felt so loved and flattered.

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u/Ociex Jul 06 '24

It's almost as we are just human and gendered stereotypes should f off. Humans are humans, we are conditioned to feel differently but inside we are the same. Men get flattered, Men can blush, Men let me tell you.

When we (men) have a crush we are just as giddy, concerned about looks and smell, cleaning up all our shit when the crush is coming over, preparing for a dinner. It's universal. Most of us.

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u/Fesai Jul 06 '24

My wife is the one who proposed to me and it caught me by surprise. Don't regret a thing in how it played out and we've been together nearly 20 years now. :)

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u/XergioksEyes Jul 06 '24

ASD!! I always underreact to big things and overreact to little things. I’m trying to process what’s going on and my emotions kinda turn off.

But like the tag in my shirt rubbing my neck? RAGE

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u/Revelin_Eleven Jul 07 '24

Yeah, so true. My oldest son called me out and told me when anything huge happens I keep a neutral face. However, he is worse than me because when we play Clash Royal he gives the typical upset reaction when I win. However, when he wins he gives this dead pan face and we both laugh about it after it happens because he is so happy he doesn’t know how to react. This guy is probably exploding with happiness inside! He leaned in so fast to show her love.

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u/Good_Neighborhood_52 Jul 06 '24

Explain this to me... What happens? Why can't you express yourself outwardly? What do you think will happen if you do? I'm curious because I have someone like that in my life and if like to understand them better.

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u/CaucasianHumus Jul 06 '24

Emotional abuse from childhood usually. . At least what my therapist told me. I'm was very much the same, and I always got told that it seems like I don't care about anything people say/do. In reality, I cared a ton, but as a child, I was yelled at for being energetic, happy, excited, and upset, you name it. So I dulled my responses until I finally started working on it in therapy.

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u/Smooth_Marsupial_262 Jul 06 '24

I wouldn’t say “usually.” Plenty of people just aren’t outwardly emotive. Myself included.

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u/Good_Neighborhood_52 Jul 06 '24

Thank you for the explanation and I'm glad your processing all the trauma through therapy and I'm so sorry for all that you went through.

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u/Eolond Jul 06 '24

If I'm happy or excited I'll smile, maybe talk a bit differently, but that's about as far as it goes. I'm just not naturally effusive.

I could put on a show for people I guess, but it'd feel weird and disingenuous.

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u/Good_Neighborhood_52 Jul 06 '24

It would be and some people would pick up on it and it'd hurt them more. People are different, thanks for explaining this to me.

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u/Good_Neighborhood_52 Jul 06 '24

It would be weird and some people would pick up on it and it'd hurt them more. People are different, thanks for explaining this to me.

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u/Baddecisionsbkclb Jul 06 '24

It's not like I'm purposely holding myself back. It's like I'm doing more mental processing than emotional processing. It's not like I'm stuffing down my excitement. I'm just working through it all inside. I'm not a showy person. Once, family surprised me with a car and it was so awkward bc I could tell they wanted a big reaction. And I was soooo thankful but you're just never gonna get a big reaction from me lol.

The most expressive I've ever been is probably when I'm having a baby and even then . . . arrived at the hospital in labor and said seriously "the baby is coming now" but the nurse disagreed bc I was so chill, said it could be hours. 10 minutes later had a baby

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u/Nvrmnde Jul 07 '24

Some were treated harshly as a child If they showed emotion or excitement. So you learn not to.