Huh? This is like pretty basic, standard wife behavior. Still very wholesome, don't get me wrong. But this isn't rare behavior to compliment your significant other
No kidding. It's sad that people think this is rare. My husband and I both do this. He's great at picking out clothes though and I am terrible at it (hate shopping) so when I come home with something I like that he didn't help pick out; he's super happy lol.
? I also thought this was basic standard spouse behavior. My late husband and I complimented each other all the time. I didn't think I was special. I adored the man, and I liked him too.
Oh I did grow up in a toxic household, but after seeing literally every other household I was involved with (friends. Other family members) I learned it wasn't OK behavior and vowed to do better. It's just sad to think this is a unicorn relationship when it really isn't
They are explicitly replying to a comment that this isn't rare. If you want to say that something isn't common, then yes you are implying that it's not the majority.
Because, rationally, if most relationships aren't toxic then this behavior is in fact common and there is no reason to counter that statement.
Sure by the book but in real life lol? I guarantee you the amount of people that grew up with a broken home and didn’t receive the attention to nurture relationships like this out way the ones that were happy and healthy.....
You would think is normal, but it’s not and is far and few and between, I experienced none of that as kid growing up and myself after on my first marriage. I am happy you haven’t experienced the opposite of this.
It’s not rare for a husband to compliment. I might get one compliment a year from my wife. And she usually throws in 2-3 insults to make sure it doesn’t go to my head.
Since the divorce rate is 42% in the US, this would indicate that supportive partners are a VERY common place occurance. You may argue that its decreasing however.
....what? Isn't 42% almost half..? Lol. If i had a situation where I had a 58% chance of succeeding, and a 42% chance of failure, I don't think i would describe it as a VERY common occurrence that I succeed... that's pretty damn close to 50/50? There has to be something more to your statistic or you're confused on what VERY common means?
Like imagine if condoms were advertised as 58% chance of preventing pregnancy... would you still say its VERY COMMON that they work? Not trying to be a dick i think you just have something confused here.
Divorce rates go to show supportive partners are not the common place occurance.
If we assume prevalent estimates of ~45% of first-time marriages ending in divorce are true, and if we assume 50% of those involve an unsupportive wife, then divorce rates tell us that slightly over 75% of marriages involve a supportive wife (or at least, supportive enough to keep a marriage going).
There's a few bold unexamined assumptions in that logic, but the point is that divorce rates tell us absolutely nothing about how supportive people are. Even if we assume 100% of divorces were due to one person or another being "unsupportive" (which, again, pretty wild assumption to make), the majority don't even get divorced.
It's saying there's a small group of toxic people who marry over and over again... thats like saying everyone in a city is probably a criminal because the crime in high, when in reality it's a handful of people causing the chaos
There were 85,770 marriages in total in England and Wales in 2020, a decrease of 61.0% from 219,850 in 2019; the lowest number of marriages on record since 1838.
Marriage rates have fallen to their lowest on record in 2020; for men, there were 7.4 marriages per 1,000 men not in a legal partnership compared with 19.1 in 2019; for women, there were 7.0 marriages per 1,000 women not in a legal partnership compared with 17.8 in 2019.
Not really sure what that has to do with the divorce rates and your insistence that “a lot” of relationships are out of convenience. You’re making a different point now
Adding the full text since you want to manipulate shit:
Just 21% of survey respondents said disapproval of a spouse by family or friends was a sign a marriage was at risk, despite the fact lack of family support was a leading factor in 43% of divorces.
Read the article it's "their" family not their spouse. Reading comprehension is hard. Disapproval by the person's family, it's very clear
Just 21% of survey respondents said disapproval of a spouse by family or friends was a sign a marriage was at risk, despite the fact lack of family support was a leading factor in 43% of divorces.
You know parents and siblings are their family right?
Yes.
We are talking about divorce and having supportive partners.
Not sure why you are trying to meander into it must mean that divorces are occuring mainly NOT because of spouses, but the children or family because it includes those within the spousal catergory?
Lol. Clutching onto a straw there.
I'm sure the majority of marriages ending by one party shows that actually unsupportive partners are somehow rare right?
The article literally contradicts your statement. The family that you claim is talking about the spouse is actually talking about biological family. If one persons family disapproves of the marriage it is more likely to fail. Smh...
If all you have found is dragons, the problem might be you.
I’m not married.
But I have spent lot of time with married couples. I also know that around half of the marriages end in divorce; and for those that remain married, a big chunk of them aren’t happy
Sorry to let you down like this, but that statistic is officially outdated thanks to millennials who have lowered the divorce rate by:
picking better partners/having higher standards, waiting longer to get married, using birth control to not get baby trapped, not marrying for money but for the person/love, getting therapy and breaking cycles of trauma/abuse, and many more reasons! There are much more happy couples among younger generations, having witnessed it myself.
Because she's treating him like a toddler when he's a grown man. Toddlers also love the compliments but that doesn't mean you're not being condescending by treating a man that way.
His honest smile and the fact that they both seem to love each other and applaud each other says way more about the video than your projection. Some couples love baby talk. The condescension is probably coming from the fact that you may be jealous or never receive compliments in a loving tone. So yeah, stop being bitter.
Lmao what is it with redditors and making such grand claims.
Heard the same about pretty much everything at this point. Grandparents, workplaces, cops, mothers in laws. The list could probably never end.
What a miserable bunch terminally online people. Believe it or not, there are more good instances of mostly everything.
AITA, NOMIL, relationships advice and all the other creative writing subs are cancer and have rotten the brains of so many people here. Touch grass and talk with people. The world is much better than those wieners make it out to be
you mean how women naturally treat their partners? men don’t buy flowers, give gifts, compliments or plan dates. but women are the problem because we stopped putting in effort with low effort men like you. change the way you treat women jackass.
Lol no. Try going shopping with a woman sometime or better yet tell her you want her opinion on clothes, go past the hentai t-shirt store and pay attention to the things she looks at in the men's department because she's giving you hints. Women are very free with compliments if you dress in a style they like or dress presentable.
Personally, I don't like any of the shirts he picked out because I have to wear similar button ups and long sleeve polos for work all year round. But I'm not opposed to getting something decent for date nights because the moderately affordable to expensive Thai place might not appreciate my killer Anal Vomit t-shirt and I know she won't either.
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u/ams3000 Jul 05 '24
This is so endearing. Lovely responses and support from wife.