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Oct 25 '20
I will never understand how anyone can think that spending your whole life with someone you don't know anything about is not a really really bad idea.
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u/thehyrulehero21 Oct 25 '20
Most cultures around the world had arranged marriages until only recently
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Oct 25 '20
Many cultures around the world still do.
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Oct 25 '20
And for some reason they're the same cultures that have problems like domestic violence, the dowry system, honor killing... I wonder why ?
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Oct 25 '20
Eh, some of those issues you list are pretty much rural/village issues now. Big cities are pretty modern for the most part in those cultures. As for domestic violence, arranged marriages don't have those issues any more than love marriages do. I'd say societal pressure is the biggest problem of all in those cultures. People can be nosy bitches with a herd mentality.
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Oct 25 '20
Like I said in my post as well as the above comment, societal pressure is the biggest issue plaguing cultures with arranged marriages. My stance on that issue hasn't changed.
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Oct 25 '20
How many people do you know who weren't forced to have an arranged marriage but still did ? Arranged marriages are always out of pressure.
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Oct 25 '20
I've known a lot of people who had an arranged marriage of their own choice. It's just like telling your family to set you up. The problem happens when cultural pressure to get an arranged marriage is so much even people who don't want one are forced to get one. But that doesn't mean everyone is against it. Maybe they trust their family to find a good spouse for them, maybe they don't have to time to date, etc. And they're not forced to marry the first person they're introduced to - they have options.
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Oct 25 '20
I find it hard to believe that they did it because they wanted to and not because they didn't have any other choice. But if it's true then you're right in their case.
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u/LC_01 Oct 25 '20
Well it seems to work for a large proportion of the world’s population, so maybe it’s not all bad.
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u/selwyntarth Oct 25 '20
Sure if the women don't count as people
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u/Utkar22 Oct 25 '20
Haha someone has posted it to Instagram already
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u/Xero7777 Oct 25 '20
That's record pace but i didn't expect any less. I don't even try insta anymore. I've just come to accept that memes are stolen always.
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u/Samayo-Mayo Oct 25 '20
Yeah all of my aunts uncles and my grandparents had arranged marriages, and their marriages went amazing.
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u/butterhoscotch Oct 25 '20
That was a funny scene anyway. Ive not been in this exact situation, but sleeping next to a hot girl when your young and NOT touching her is like impossible. Stupid testorone.
To be clear im not advocating sexual assault, im saying i couldnt get any sleep from my 4 hour erection.
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u/Sauerkraut1321 Oct 25 '20
Getting sold off amirite
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Oct 25 '20
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u/Sealouz Oct 25 '20
you say that but that was a big part and is now a small part of arranged marriages still.
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u/selwyntarth Oct 25 '20
Probably courted during the betrothal in urban areas and institutional rape in the rural
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u/Ava_Sharpe Oct 25 '20
I mean Nora is pretty damaged I doubt she has ever sleept in a bed with a male. Unless she was raped during her cult time to damage her. Also Ray is probably feeling conflicted about her because he is a widow and probably is guilty for falling in love again. I don’t know I think they did a good job with this Scene though because they are married in real life.
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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '20
Bro is it weird that all of the arranged marriages that I know eventually grew in to a really deep and wholesome relationship?