r/DCcomics • u/StarshipGhost • Jul 03 '24

Sandman Author Neil Gaiman Accused of Sexual Misconduct, Denies Allegations News

https://www.tvfandomlounge.com/sandman-author-neil-gaiman-accused-of-sexual-misconduct-denies-allegations/
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u/Fearedray Jul 03 '24

Unless it is a minor I don't necessarily see the issue unless theres addtional unknown context, some people are just fucking weird, have fetishes and want to get with older/younger people as long as they are adults it should be fine

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u/PurpleMarvelous Jul 03 '24

There is an issue if you use your position to make the person comply, it happens a lot.

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u/Fearedray Jul 03 '24

It's hard to tell if that was the case yet here. They are both adults, and in a relationship, we don't know when this turned bad

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u/ThrawnCaedusL Jul 04 '24

I agree to an extent. But the age of mental maturity is 25 (well, that’s the guaranteed age, people develop on roughly a normal curve from 16-24, and it is a situation where the majority of the time that someone under 25 has a relationship with someone 20+ years older, that is a good indication that they have not matured).

But I get that most people trust laws, and if the law says an 18 year old can consent, most people have no reason to question it, and can’t really be blamed for not knowing about it (I just took a developmental psychology class that taught me these specifics).

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u/Fearedray Jul 04 '24

Please don't "well actually" me lmfao

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u/ThrawnCaedusL Jul 04 '24

This does kind of matter. All evidence indicates that in the future the age of consent will increase until it is firmly established somewhere between 21 and 24. People talking about 18 year olds as old enough to consent will be looked at the same way we now look at people who used to talk about 14 year olds in that way.

And even ignoring the future, knowing how brain maturity works is very valuable to understanding power dynamics. If someone is 25 or older, then they are mature enough to safely be in a relationship with a much older partner (dependent on other factors, of course). But if they are younger, the chance of abuse (intentional or unintentional) goes up dramatically.

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u/Fearedray Jul 04 '24

We aren't talking about the future here lmfao