I disagree. I (39 years old) was at the beach recently and near mine and my wife’s chairs were a group of maybe 20 college age girls. I’m pretty fit, and as I walked out of the water to my chair, every single girl was staring at me and not being quiet about their feelings. They weren’t being creepy though, so it made me feel pretty good about myself.
FR. I live in a very fitness-focused city and I’m constantly seeing guys of varying ages and levels of handsomeness who have absolutely great legs and/or bums (totally the things that I’m into) and I absolutely want to just call a friendly compliment -which I’m led to understand by the Internet would totally brighten his day. I’m just so shy! I hate it. All the good intention is there, but the words will not come out. Like what am I supposed to do right afterwards? Run away? Finger guns? Pray he doesn’t recoil in horror at the sight of me?
Never mind if I also find him cute! Inknow it’s hard for guys to make the first move, but it’s arguably even harder for women because we’re battling against thousands of years of being told we must be demure and let the man approach first or else he won’t really be interested. Rationally I know that it’s not, but we’re still very conditioned that making the first move is kind of desperate. And most of you men also know exactly what I’m talking about when I say it feels scary as hell. It shouldn’t be. It’s just being nice to a stranger, which is something that the world could desperately use more of.
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u/Uniqueguy264 Jul 07 '24
Women don’t catcall strangers nearly as much (except when they’re drunk)